Relatives get along and keep a distance.
Spring Festival, the most solemn traditional festival in our country, people gather together to visit relatives and friends and enhance their feelings. Although it may seem lively on the surface, the complex kinship behind it is often a headache.
Relatives get along with each other more complicated than friends, based on blood ties, but they do not necessarily have common interests and hobbies, and even hate each other. Even the closest people, such as parents and children, who live together for long periods of time, can disagree.
Therefore, no matter how close the relationship is, it also needs to maintain an appropriate distance, do not interfere with each other, and be free to each other, so as to see each other and maintain the happiness of getting together.
Intimate blood ties do not guarantee harmonious coexistence. My neighbor's house is only separated from mine by a wall, and since I was a child, I often heard all kinds of quarrels and rights and wrongs in their house, which upset me.
Even the great writer Lu Xun and his younger brother Zhou Zuoren lived in the same courtyard, and they were supposed to be brothers who took care of each other, but because of the way they got along, there were many contradictions, so that Zhou Zuoren had to write to Lu Xun, asking him not to come to the backyard again, and only hoped that he could rest assured and self-respecting.
These ordinary people and things are enough to show that the distance between relatives may allow us to stay away from right and wrong and live more freely. After we got married, my brother and I lived in the same city, but we lived far away, and we didn't interfere with each other and missed each other, but instead made our lives more harmonious.
Three feet away, guarding the beauty of family affection. "Family affection is not something that can be talked about without words, and you need to maintain a sense of distance and proportion when you speak. Some words cannot be taken back once they are spoken, and the cracks in feelings are difficult to repair.
When we get together, we will inevitably complain about life, complain about the status quo, and even quarrel with different opinions. Keeping your distance from your voice can avoid physical contact, give room for emotional relaxation, and avoid escalating conflicts.
When speaking, you should also pay attention to the sense of proportion, use honorifics, be humble and polite, and leave room for each other, so as not to hurt each other's feelings.
Between relatives, the heart should be three inches wider, don't worry too much. I remember when I was a child, my aunt and my mother had an argument, but my mother always chose to put up with it. She always said that as long as it wasn't too much, she would give it to her aunt, and she often warned us to be open-minded and not to have any opinions about my aunt.
So, although there were some minor conflicts between them, it didn't affect our relationship with our cousins. Between relatives, even if they are brothers, they must settle accounts clearly, although absolute fairness is difficult to achieve, but relative balance is enough.
For those trivial things, we might as well laugh it off. To be lenient and tolerant of others is to be compassionate to oneself. We should strive to create a harmonious family atmosphere, where we can work together and help each other in the face of difficulties, so that our life path will be smoother.
The love between relatives is like blood and cannot be separated. Even if you are in a different place and far away, you can still have a clear heart, as if you are talking in your ear, and your heart is as wide as the sea.
Let the family relationship stay fresh for a long time, and make the love between relatives deeper. I'm a cute dumb cake, the same name as the Himalayas, looking forward to your attention!