In interpersonal interactions, we often encounter situations where we need to defend or explain ourselves. Some people may put too much emphasis on self-certification, believing that it is only through constant explanation and proof that they can earn the recognition and respect of others. However, I don't think this is advisable because true self-confidence and value don't need to be demonstrated by self-certification.
First of all, self-certification often stems from inner insecurity and lack of self-confidence. When we feel uncertain about our abilities and worth, we tend to defend ourselves through words, trying to prove ourselves right. But this approach is often counterproductive, because the more we emphasize our own correctness, the more likely others are to question and resent it. On the contrary, if we can face our own shortcomings and mistakes calmly, and do not deliberately prove anything, we will win the respect and trust of others.
Second, self-proof often leads us into endless arguments and justifications. In arguments, both sides tend to have their own opinions and try to overwhelm each other through words. However, there are often no winners in such arguments, because even if we win temporarily, it is difficult to really change the perception of others. What's more, excessive arguments can consume our time and energy, distracting us from focusing on more important things. Therefore, we should learn to avoid pointless arguments and respect the views of others instead of putting too much emphasis on self-justification.
Finally, we should learn to prove ourselves with our actions. Compared with verbal justification and proof, performance in action can better reflect a person's ability and value. When we use practical actions to prove our ability and value, others will naturally see it in their eyes and remember it in their hearts. Therefore, we should focus on improving our own abilities and qualities, and use practical actions to win the recognition and respect of others.
In conclusion, never proving oneself is a sign of maturity and wisdom. We should learn to face our own shortcomings and mistakes calmly, avoid unnecessary arguments and justifications, and prove our ability and value with actions. Only in this way can we truly win the respect and trust of others and realize the value of our own life.