Mencius once said: "At the beginning of man, nature is good. ”
Everyone comes into this world with a heart full of good intentions.
However, life's ups and downs often cause us to have negative emotions.
In the face of these emotions, I can only respond with one word, and that is "quiet".
In the chaotic world, when disturbed by all kinds of trivial matters, negative emotions involuntarily come to my heart.
At this time, the first step we need to do is to calm down and remember our original motivation and original intention.
For example, when we are exhausted by the pressure of work, we can recall the reason why we chose this job in the first place, whether it was to pursue our dreams or to achieve self-worth, and whether it was worth it to be so tired.
When there is a conflict with our family, think about it, we are a family, we are related by blood, we are the closest people in the world, what can be greater than blood?
When you have a misunderstanding with your friends, you might as well think about the happy times you play together, the warm moments when you help each other together, and the mutual puzzles when you study together, why can't you bow your head now?
When we think about it this way, the flame in our hearts will be rekindled and give us the courage to stand up again.
When you have some negative emotions, think about who you are and why? Why?
Everyone has their own unique personality and values, and that's what sets us apart.
In the midst of a chaotic crowd, we can lose ourselves, forget our worth, and forget our purpose.
"Quiet self-cultivation, thrift to cultivate virtue, non-indifferent without clear ambition, non-quiet without far-reaching. "- Zhuge Liang.When negative emotions hit, we should calm down and think about who we are.
Hold on to your inner strength and firmly believe in your uniqueness, so that you can find a bright exit in the difficult situation.
Finally, we need to think about our own answers.
Negative emotions can make us confused and unsure of what to do.
But as long as we stop, calm our minds, and ask ourselves what is in our hearts, we can find the answer to the problem.
My friend's sister is getting married for the New Year, but the company has designated a friend to be on duty during the New Year.
If a friend attends her sister's wedding, the company loses her position.
If she is on duty in the company, she will not be able to accompany her sister at this important moment, and she will leave regrets.
My friend was distressed by this.
I told her, don't think too much about the gains and losses, ask your heart, what is the answer in your heart?
In the end, my friend gave up his job and chose not to regret it.
She said that she could find another job, but her sister only had one.
I think that's the answer she really wants.
Everyone has their own wisdom and problem-solving skills, and we are able to find a way out even in the face of difficulties.
Perhaps, at that time, we had found the right answer, but it was masked by negative emotions at that time.
Calming down and thinking about our intentions, self-perceptions, and answers is the key to dealing with negative emotions.
Only in this way will we be able to rekindle the flame within ourselves, find the motivation to move forward, and finally get out of the predicament of negative emotions.
Let's stick to this word together, quiet, and believe that it is enough to bring us surprise and resonance.