In the rural blind date market, people from poorer families face a huge dilemma. The reality of society has created the desire to pursue a better life, so material conditions often become the primary consideration of rural blind dates. After some inquiry, it is easy to understand the quality of the family. Bride price and garage are almost indispensable conditions in the rural blind date market. Lacking these basic conditions, many people are not even qualified to line up for a blind date, so it is very unrealistic for people from poor families to enter marriage through blind dates. As a result, most of the tens of millions of "singles" in rural areas are from poorer families, and many are destined to live celibates.
The dilemma that people from poorer families often encounter in the process of blind dates is financial pressure. Whether it is a bride price or a garage, it requires a certain amount of economic expenditure. For those from poorer families, this will undoubtedly add a great financial burden. In rural society, the economic situation is not only material wealth, but also related to a person's status and reputation in the village. Therefore, in this case, it is almost impossible for people from poorer families to succeed in blind dates.
In the process of blind date and marriage, the right person is a very important factor. In addition, similar personalities and consistent interests are also the key to the success of a blind date. However, in the current blind date market, people who think highly of themselves are often too conceited and have insufficient understanding of reality, and such an attitude is easy to offend. At present, the blind date role of rural men is relatively unpopular, and they need to face the real problems seriously. However, many people don't believe what the matchmaker says, which is also the most troublesome type of person for matchmakers. These people may be reluctant to accept reality because of past emotional hurt, or because they have an extremely high opinion of what they look like. Eventually, they become part of the group to be married. Their age has been extended from 20 to 30 and 40, and they have not been able to find a suitable partner.
People who think highly of themselves are often perceived as immodest, uninteresting, and charismatic. In rural society, women naturally recognize the honesty of men, but it is difficult for those who are too honest and timid to win the favor of women. In today's society, women pursue the strong, and the more active the person, the more opportunities. This is why in social circles, "scumbags" are more marketable than other men. In other words, women naturally avoid those who are honest and honest in the pursuit of the attributes of the strong. As a result, people who have a high self-esteem and lack practical action often find it difficult to get good results in the matchmaking market.
As the saying goes, a good woman is afraid of pestering. This sentence means that in modern society, women who "love to pursue the strong" are more marketable. In the past, the image of honesty and sincerity was a symbol of peace of mind in previous eras, but in the current society, honesty is often regarded as synonymous with not knowing taste, having no mood, and being timid and cowardly. Under the attributes of women pursuing the strong, it is difficult for people who are too honest to be favored. Such people often lack self-confidence and decisiveness, and are unable to show attractiveness and charisma. Therefore, it is difficult for such people to succeed in blind dates.
The dilemma that people who are too honest often encounter in the blind date process is passivity and lack of initiative. They are not good at expressing their thoughts and feelings, and are prone to passively accept other people's arrangements and choices. In the process of blind date, this passive attitude is difficult to make people feel good. Women tend to expect men to be assertive and courageous, and those who are too honest lack these qualities. Therefore, it is difficult for them to attract the attention and favor of women in blind dates.
Back in the countryside, it has become a norm to participate in rural blind dates. However, we must recognize the problem of difficult blind dates in rural areas. Especially in reality, it is very difficult for rural men to find suitable partners due to the phenomenon of male superiority and preference for sons. This article describes the three most difficult categories of people in rural blind dates and analyzes their causes. However, we should not just turn off the lights on these three types of people, the difficulty of blind date and marriage is a social problem. The problem affects the willingness of young women to marry, as well as the number of older unmarried young men in rural areas. This problem has further led to a decline in the population and a decrease in fertility. Therefore, we need to pay attention to this problem and look for solutions.
On a personal level, I think the dilemma in rural blind dates is not limited to these three groups. Factors such as traditional concepts, cultural differences, and social structure in rural society are also important reasons for the difficulty of blind dates. Therefore, in solving this problem, we should take into account various factors in a comprehensive manner and carry out fundamental reforms. At the same time, we should also pay attention to the impact of changes in the concept of marriage and social progress, and find solutions that are more in line with the needs of the times for the problem of blind date in rural areas.