Some people say that INFJs are people who are good at being silent, in other words, they feel that INFJs are not social. This could not be more wrong. INFJs are also social, but their willingness to socialize is much lower than that of others. We often say that a person is passive, quiet, introverted, delicate, etc., these all belong to a person's personality and temperament, and if a person really loses social function, such as not wanting to study in class, resisting contact with people, long-term depression and autism, etc., it belongs to psychological disorders, which is very different from the "silence" of INFJ.
INFJs are socially different from those of extroverts, and their main characteristics are as follows:
1. As long as you have the ability and can hold on, you will not fall
Even if INFJ's own emotions have reached a critical point, as long as it does not reach the moment of final collapse, as long as it can be endured, INFJ will persevere. INFJ's mood is invisible, and it will not be too obvious when unhappy or stressed, so others cannot see how much INFJ's inner acceptance is, so there will be others who think that INFJ is an emotional tree hole, and constantly fire their emotions at them.
But INFJ's emotions also have capacity, and he has been doing self-sacrifice, and although he is unhappy in his heart, he will not say it. As a result, INFJs are very concerned about the experiences and feelings of others and give way to themselves, and as a result, they are very hurt in their social interactions, which in turn causes them to resist socializing with others.
2. Be ready to withdraw at any time
The above situation is that INFJs are with relatively familiar people, such as colleagues, classmates, and friends, but if they are strangers and strangers that INFJs don't like, they will always be ready to escape.
When confronted with strangers, INFJs will keep a certain distance, make a defensive posture, and will not be curious about the other person, and will not let the other person know their situation. That's how they protect themselves from harm.
The INFJ's avoidance of others is not an expression of hostility towards others or an expectation of others, but a manifestation of their inertia, for which intimacy with others is not necessary.
3. Don't say absolutes, don't pack tickets
INFJs don't talk to anyone to death, because of INFJ's social characteristics, and also as a way to protect themselves. They will be responsible for what they do and what they say, and will never do it intentionally to please someone or show off. So, with INFJs, you'll often hear them say, "I personally think", "It's possible", "Probably, but not necessarily", etc., and you never seem to be able to get a definite answer from their mouth.
This kind of non-affirmative answer will be perceived as cautious by others at work, but if it is in life, INFJ may be questioned for not being sincere enough. After all, if it's almost impossible to get certainty or advice from them, what's the point of turning to them?
These are the social characteristics of INFJs, but they are also different from person to person, and they cannot be generalized. AbsolutelyINFJs have these characteristics because of their lack of self-security.
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