Text: Mi Li's mother.
Recently, I was swiped by the TV series "If Running Is My Life", and the screen is full of various comparisons between the original match of the goddess and the ugly junior in the year.
Among them, what makes me feel the most is not the appearance of the junior, but the strength of the mother-in-law to make things difficult for her daughter-in-law, which is very real in the world.
When the mother of the male protagonist Qin Feng found out that her son was cheating, and the junior was not good-looking at all, she was also very angry. She scolded that:
You're so hungry! You can eat anything!
When she found out that her son had betrayed her daughter-in-law, her first reaction was how to protect her son's interests.
Therefore, Qin Feng's mother first expressed her understanding to Qin Feng, saying that she knew that he was suffering and that he was suffering every day.
Then scolded him for not knowing the severity, even if he was looking for a woman, he couldn't find a female leader who worked in the same branch as him!
After scolding, Qin Feng's mother offered to help Qin Feng cover up and conceal her daughter-in-law and in-laws together, and later even took the initiative to ask her daughter-in-law to divorce, so that Qin Feng would no longer have to bear the reputation of abandoning his severely disabled wife.
There are too many mothers-in-law who feel that their sons are divorced and can remarry in minutes. She feels that her daughter-in-law is all high, no matter how good her daughter-in-law is and how unbearable her son is.
Although he knew that the mistress he was looking for was less than one-ten-thousandth of his daughter-in-law's, he would still step on one and threaten his daughter-in-law with the mistress, and when the mistress really wanted to become a daughter-in-law, he began to suppress the new daughter-in-law.
The revenge psychology of a daughter-in-law who has become a mother-in-law for many years
After Qin Feng's divorce, junior Chu Zhijuan officially met her future mother-in-law for the first time after taking the throne, and her mother-in-law unsurprisingly started to work again.
He didn't plan to treat Chu Zhijuan well because she was about to become her new daughter-in-law, but as soon as he came up, he first came down to show his dominant status.
But the reason why Xiao San can become Xiao San is because she regards discipline as nothing. Since she doesn't even have a temperament, it is naturally impossible for her to take your ridiculous mother-in-law and daughter-in-law dominance in her eyes.
If you pull me into the marriage cage, and plan to put a wicked mother-in-law on my head, then I'm sorry, your divorce has nothing to do with me, and I won't marry you, bye you.
Chu Zhijuan pursues respect and equality, not endured endless accusations and criticism. So although everyone disliked her for being old and ugly, she just had the capital to dump Qin Feng.
The scumbag and the evil mother-in-law get the retribution they deserve, which is certainly very happy, but this is a TV series after all.
Those who were once bullied by their mother-in-law, survived for so many years, and finally became a mother-in-law, vainly trying to put the new shackles on their daughter-in-law, and encouraging their sons to replace their wives without saying a word, also abound.
Such as these:
The TV series "Good Things Come in Pairs", which has been popular for a while, is also the case with the male protagonist Wei Ming's mother.
At that time, Wei Ming had just been promoted to deputy manager, and his mother was swollen at the dinner table. said directly in front of her daughter-in-law that her friend wanted to introduce Wei Ming to the object, and the little girl was only in her early 20s, and she was as tender as a peach.
After saying this, he immediately asked his daughter-in-law if it was time to have a second child. Doesn't that mean a clear threat? If you don't have a second child, I will replace you in minutes and directly find a younger and more beautiful one in his early 20s to give birth to our family.
I just want to say that netizens' mammary glands are also mammary glands. Fortunately, the daughter-in-law went back at that time:
I heard that they have a director in their unit, and the reputation is very bad. As soon as he was promoted, he divorced and married a new one, but he was later fired.
As a result, the mother-in-law couldn't sit still and said directly:
Our family doesn't do such a thing, our family style is very good.
The daughter-in-law said:I'm joking, too.
Okay, relieved, this wave of mammary glands is clear. But then again, is home a battlefield? If the family has a meal, they must fight like this, then marriage is not for happiness, it is purely because they have a long life.
How far can a mother-in-law be eccentric?
I watched a fan tell her story backstage before, and Mi Li's mother was really angry at that time.
The fan has an ex-boyfriend, and his mother is the outrageous eccentric type.
The ex-boyfriend's mother, the first time they met was to catch her from her hometown to see her son, and her boyfriend asked the fans if they wanted to have a meal together, and the fans readily agreed, and decided that she would invite this meal.
When eating, she kept an eye on it and didn't take the initiative to say that she would invite the meal herself.
When ordering, the fan planned to order two pots of roasted bullfrogs, one pot spicy and one pot not spicy, but her boyfriend's mother tried her best to stop it, saying that one pot was enough to eat; The fans wanted to order the skewers, but they were also prevented, saying that it was good to eat the side dishes of the self-service in the store.
Later, when the dishes were served, her boyfriend's mother began to force her home performance, frantically clipping bullfrogs for her son, and even blocking the chopsticks that fans used to clip meat, and kept asking her boyfriend to eat more.
The fans simply stopped eating bullfrogs and began to nibble on the roast pig's trotters on the table. I didn't feel enough to eat, so I planned to order two more servings. As a result, her boyfriend's mother told her very loudly again that if she eats less of that thing, she will be easy to gain weight.
In the end, the fan simply put down the chopsticks, looked at the two mothers and sons in front of them, and after the two of them were full, they took out their cards and prepared to check out.
At this time, her boyfriend's mother suddenly said that she would go home the next day, and the child's father had never eaten this, so she wanted to pack a copy and take it back to eat ......
The most puzzling thing for fans is that the boyfriend was indifferent during the whole process, and he sat and ate.
Of course, the operation of the fans is also very happy. She directly ordered 6 more roast pig's trotters and a bunch of skewers, packed them home to invite friends to drink beer, and hit ** in person before leaving, and asked her friend to return the Valentine's Day gift computer that was supposed to be given to her boyfriend.
After this time, the fan broke up with this boyfriend.
To be honest, this fan is quite sober. It's really worth it to see this family clearly in one meal.
There are many people who are holding a fluke mentality, thinking that their love brain can overcome all difficulties and obstacles, and they have seen that their in-laws are not good like this fan, but they still gritted their teeth and walked on, until they got married and gave birth to a baby, intensifying more contradictions, and they could only be forced to divorce.
Sometimes this kind of eccentricity is really necessary to stop the loss in time. Because of partiality, it reflects that her in-laws have a very unobjective evaluation of her son, she will think that her son is the best in the world, and the world is not worthy of her son.
And such a family is also particularly easy to produce mothers and boys. Once there is any conflict in marriage, as a daughter-in-law, there is a high probability that she will only suffer.
If you want to fight for yourself right or wrong, most of you will wait for your husband's sentence:
It wasn't easy for my mom to raise me. My mom is an elder after all.
This is indeed the classic line of the scumbag Qin Feng, but how many people can walk away in a chic manner like Chu Zhijuan, the little three, without taking a cloud with them?
is not used to her husband, she is not accommodating to her mother-in-law, but she has a better life
In fact, many times, these mothers-in-law regard their daughters-in-law as imaginary enemies. The opposite in her mind is not the daughter-in-law, but the position of the daughter-in-law.
In other words, no matter who is in this position, they will become the "love rival" who snatches their son's love, and driving the "love enemy" away, or torturing the person who shares their son's love, has become what they must do.
thinks that his son can find a better one, or threatens his daughter-in-law with this, and makes his daughter-in-law disgusting and uncomfortable, all in order to seize the absolute dominant position in his son's mind.
This kind of psychology will not be improved because her son marries someone else, no matter how many wives her son marries, she will still regard her incumbent daughter-in-law as an opponent.
Until she meets someone who is even more powerful than her.
In fact, we really should have our own framework, so that we can better protect our interests and status from unnecessary infringement.
Because it would be wishful thinking to expect men to mediate and solve these problems.
Mi Li's mother is very powerful with a best friend, she has been dating her boyfriend for four years, and before marriage, she said that she would live in a two-person world and not live with her in-laws.
But not long after getting married, her mother-in-law came to the door twice in three days to find faults, and she didn't like this daughter-in-law in any way.
However, the girlfriend will not tolerate the other party being an elder, so she will tolerate her vexatiousness. Mother-in-law often thinks that her girlfriend's cooking is not delicious, either too salty or too light.
Once, my mother-in-law came to the door again, and my best friend secretly asked her husband to cook without saying anything.
When the mother-in-law disliked the food again, the girlfriend just smiled and said:
Husband, my mother said that your cooking is not delicious.
The mother-in-law was instantly speechless.
Later, she began to be picky about her best friend's outfits. My best friend asked her husband in person:
You say, can I see people in this dress?
Her husband immediately cooperated:
It looks good, my wife looks good in everything.
Such a way of singing and harmonizing finally made the mother-in-law lose her temper, even if she looked at her best friend unpleasantly, she would not say anything, and the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law maintained basic peace.
The management of the marriage relationship relies on wisdom, and two people are like dancing tango, advancing and retreating.
Although it is a common family in the name of love, there are too many trivial and interests involved, there is no spirit of game, just blindly please, and often lose very badly, or even out.
If the framework is stable and there is a sense of home, the in-laws will respect you for three points, because when you see your son standing on your side, the mothers-in-law will be afraid before talking and doing things, and will think twice, so that they will leave enough space and face for each other, and the relationship will be stable and long-lasting.
Emotional things are very delicate, it is different from other things, it is not that the more you give, the more you return. For example, in exams, as long as you work hard enough, you won't do too badly; For example, if you are motivated enough at work, there is a high probability that there will be a positive feedback result.
Only feelings rely on wisdom, you must love yourself enough, and others will love you. When you lose yourself and love each other with a spirit of self-sacrifice, you will find that you will not get the same reward, but only the more severe bullying.
When you encounter an unreliable prospective in-law's house, run as soon as possible. If you are already in a marriage and have to go around every day, then please be sure to cheer up and set up a framework, dignity and status have always been earned by yourself.
Do you have any mother-in-law and daughter-in-law stories?