My son let me live in the garage, and I left the property to the outsider
I live in the same neighborhood as my son and daughter-in-law, but in 2014, my wife passed away from an acute cerebral infarction, and the news left me with great pain.
A few months later, I was also diagnosed with a cerebral infarction, and my legs became difficult to go up and down, but I was still able to take care of myself. However, since I got sick, my son and daughter-in-law don't seem to come to see me anymore because they want to sell the house I live in and let me live in the garage.
They said it was for my own good, because my legs and feet were not good, it was difficult to go up and down the stairs, and it would be more convenient to live in the garage. But I felt that this practice was very disrespectful to me, and I did not promise them.
I told my son that although I am old and do not have much savings, I have a house, and although the garage is convenient, it is dimly lit and has poor air circulation, which is not good for health.
He said that I need to buy a car and a house, and there is still a gap of more than 300,000 yuan, and the place where he lives is dilapidated and small, and the location is not good, and he doesn't even have a car, and his relatives and friends will laugh at me.
I said, your house and car can be bought later, but I don't want you to be bothered by money things. After all, you are my son, and I will do my best to help you.
As for the house, when I die, it will naturally be yours, isn't it? Sooner or later.
I was very upset to hear that. Do you want to divide the inheritance in advance? I wouldn't have gotten to that point so soon. If you want to buy a big house, why don't you think about it for me and leave me a retirement house?
When my son saw that I didn't agree, he left angrily. After that, although we lived in the same neighborhood, he knew that it was difficult for me to go up and down the stairs, but he didn't come to see me and didn't care about me at all.
Whenever I want to buy necessities, I always find that someone with a busy hand can't keep me company. But luckily, I have a kind neighbor. Whenever I needed something, the two of them would buy it for me, and sometimes they would come over to chat with me, help me clean, and even make my own food for me.
They treated me like family for seven or eight years.
Raising children to prevent old age turned out to be a wrong concept, I experienced it firsthand, I understand that I can no longer let my son use me, I want to be self-reliant, I would rather leave the family property to a trustworthy person than my own son.
I contacted a law firm, and they helped me make a will, and the army of two took care of my funeral, and I left all the family property to them. This way, I can spend the rest of my life with peace of mind without worrying about my son's plans for me.
I have done the notarization, everything is legal and compliant, and I have no regrets.
When my son heard about this, he finally came to see me, and he reacted violently, complaining that I was confused, saying that I couldn't tell the difference between inside and outside, and that I had given all my family property to outsiders, but not to give him this son.
I told him that I needed your help, that you had time to hang out, that you had time to go shopping with your wife, but that you didn't have time to come and see me. You think I'm old, sick, and useless.
Am I your own mother? Your heart is too ruthless. When you got married, your father and I took out our life savings, and after marriage, we didn't give you less money to spend, and we also helped you raise your children.
Now that I'm old and sick, and you're doing this to me, has your conscience been eaten by dogs? After listening to my words, my son was speechless.
Aunt Zhang's story teaches us that as parents, we can't be too selfless. Our selflessness may foster an over-demanding and ungrateful mindset in our children. Once we can't meet their needs, they may become ruthless to us.
They will take our efforts for granted, which will eventually lead to disappointment and chills, and children will become unfilial. Therefore, we need to set boundaries appropriately so that children understand that there is a limit to what parents can give, and they need to cherish and be grateful.