In recent years, "lawn mower parenting" has quietly become popular. The so-called "lawn mower parents" refer to some parents who are ahead of their children in everything and help their children clear all obstacles in their path like a lawn mower to remove weeds.
This type of parent tends to take care of their children meticulously, paying too much attention to and interfering in their children's lives, and in their world, children are everything, and they can pay any price for their children.
However, once anything has been done, it goes to its opposite. On the one hand, the practice of "lawn mower parents" does protect children, making them less suffering and less frustration, on the other hand, it may limit the healthy growth of children's psychology and even lead to psychological problems in children.
Ouyang, chief psychological counselor and family education expert of Zhengzhou Renhe Psychological Counseling Center, believes that the parenting style of "lawnmower parents" has brought great harm to children, at least in the following aspects:
1. Sensitive and fragile personality, poor ability to resist pressure and frustration.
Children raised by "lawnmower parents" are like flowers in a greenhouse, they have not experienced the baptism of life and look glamorous, but in fact, they are very sensitive and fragile in their hearts, lack enthusiasm, courage and strength, and have poor ability to resist pressure and frustration. When you encounter difficulties and pressure in life and study, it is easy to fall behind.
Nowadays, many children are tired of school, suspended from school, self-isolated, and addicted to mobile phones, the essence of which is the withdrawal and avoidance behavior when encountering pressure and difficulties.
2. Lack of sense of meaning and joy of life, and "hollow heart disease".
Throughout one's life, one is actually searching for the meaning of life. But "lawn mower parents" give everything their children need in advance, and replace everything that should be done by the children themselves, which is actually depriving children of the opportunity to experience and create life.
Children who grow up in such an environment often do not experience the joy of creation and success, lack a sense of value and self-confidence, and lack a connection with the world and the people around them, and are prone to psychological problems such as "hollow heart disease", depression, anxiety, misanthropy, and even suicide in severe cases.
3. Over-dependence on parents and difficulty in adapting to society.
Children who are deprived of growth opportunities by "lawnmower parents" are likely to not have a healthy growth in personality and psychology, and are "academic bully" in terms of grades, but psychologically they are "giant babies", lack of independence, over-dependence on parents for everything, and find it difficult to adapt to social life.
Nowadays, although many children are adults, they do not know how to socialize with others, and they do not want to go out to work, so they lie flat at home and gnaw on old ......Behind this, most of them can see the shadow of "lawn mower parents".