Narrator: Lao Gu.
The helpless old man is the most pitiful, even if he has money and a house, but there are no children around, and the pension will have less confidence.
My surname is Gu 70 years old this year, I am a retired middle school teacher, my wife and I are colleagues, although we have been smooth sailing in our careers, and we also have a good retirement salary after retirement, but when we go out because we have no children of our own, we still lack a confidence.
To put it bluntly, even if we enter a nursing home in the future, the elderly with children will at least have people come to see them every once in a while, but we don't, and we are destined to die alone in this life.
It is not our own will to choose Dink in the first place.
When his wife was pregnant and gave birth to a son, the son died before the end of the week, so the wife cried for several months, because of excessive sadness, her body was not well raised, and then she has not been able to conceive a child.
We asked around and saw a lot of doctors and took a lot of medicine, but it didn't work.
When my wife was 30 years old, I didn't want to wait, so we adopted a girl under the inquiry of my mother-in-law.
The wife invested all her maternal love in this child, but the child's parents came to find it half a year later and wanted to get the child back, but we had no choice but to cut our love.
This series of events hit his wife very hard, so when the elders proposed to raise the child again, the wife vetoed it at once.
My wife can't stand this kind of torture, and I see that my wife is so sad, so I comfort her, it's nothing if you don't have your own children, it's a big deal that the two of us live by ourselves, we don't have to worry about food and clothing, don't care what others say.
My wife still minds the fact that I don't have children.
I obviously felt that she was very unsociable, she went home after work, never participated in any group activities, and liked to be alone until she retired, in fact, I also felt that it was nothing, each of us has the right to choose the way of life.
As for me, I'm quite optimistic, busy every day, work has consumed most of my energy, I live my life with peace of mind after work, I like to read books and newspapers, and I have my own interests and life is also very good.
We have been doing well because we have no financial burden, and I have been very good to my brothers' children.
Especially the son of the little brother's family.
His name is Bowen, this kid has been in love with me since he was a child, and every time I hear him call me "Uncle, Uncle", I am very happy.
When Bowen was young, because his parents were both factory workers, as soon as I rested at home during the winter and summer vacations, I took him to take care of him, not only taking care of his diet and daily life, but also tutoring him with homework.
Every time school starts, I have to send Bowen learning supplies, and I also tell Bowen that if there is anything I want to buy, I will tell my uncle.
My wife later joked to me
No matter how much you like this child, you still belong to someone else after all.
When he is older, who will remember when he has a chance.
I knew what my wife meant, and I could only say helplessly
I don't expect him to remember me, I'm his uncle, and besides, I like this kid from the bottom of my heart.
When my wife heard me say this, she stopped talking.
Actually, I still haven't said a word.
The appearance of the blog post made me feel like a father, he relied on me so much, trusted me, I felt that I had an extra responsibility, this feeling I have never felt before.
Maybe my wife also understood my feelings, and then stopped saying such things again.
Bowen was very good at reading later, and when he went to high school and went to a major university, he would come to me for advice, including choosing a major, and I would give him the most suitable advice after full consideration.
Bowen has been studying outside all those years, I am afraid that he will suffer outside, and from time to time I give him some money, at that time my brother and daughter-in-law always said in front of me, Bowen will come back to work hard after graduation, and then honor your uncle, I didn't take it to heart when I heard it.
Bowen came back and got a job the year he graduated, and that was the year my wife fell ill and died.
The sudden death of this woman who had been with me all my life made me feel painful, scared, and even more confused.
During that time, Bowen often came to visit me, talk to me, and cook with me.
One weekend Bowen took me to his house, and in front of his parents, Bowen suddenly said to me:
"Uncle, don't worry, I will support you when you are old in the future.
My mother also told me before that if the uncle has no children, you are equivalent to the uncle's children, and in the future, the uncle's property will be given to you, and you will be responsible for providing for the uncle's pension. ”
If there is no reason for the blog post, I was stunned for a moment.
Although I have thought about this before, I still feel very embarrassed that this relationship was suddenly broken through the mouth of Bowen at this moment.
I tossed and turned that night and couldn't sleep.
For the first time, I felt that this child was too utilitarian, if there was no house and money, would he take care of me for the sake of what I paid for him, I don't think he would be.
I can't help but sigh that the child has grown up and changed, and it is not as innocent as before.
Since then, I've gradually kept a certain distance from the blog post.
In fact, I am in good health, my retirement salary is enough to eat, and I have saved up my savings over the years, even if I go to a nursing home.
Bowen got married, had children, and would come to see me from time to time, buy me some fruit, and sometimes buy me clothesOf course, I don't want to take advantage of him, every time I buy something, I give him money, he doesn't want it, I give him a red envelope.
Bowen always smiled and said to me:
Uncle, you and I are too much of a stranger, we were originally a family.
Coincidentally, when Bowen came back later, he saved my life.
That day, Bowen brought his wife to my house again to see me.
He kept knocking on the door and felt strange when he didn't come out, and then he managed to open the door and found me fainting in the bathroom.
Because the rescue was timely, I was saved.
The doctor later told me that I had a cerebral hemorrhage, although the condition was not serious, but if it was not discovered in time, the person would definitely be gone, and the doctor praised Bowen for being responsible, saying that I lived in the emergency room for 2 days and 2 nights, and Bowen refused to go back and stayed by his side.
Fortunately, Bowen made the decision for me and discussed the best plan with the doctor, and I was lucky that there were no sequelae, for which Bowen also paid me 60,000 yuan in medical expenses.
I woke up that day and looked at Bowen with a haggard look and deep dark circles under his eyes, and his eyes were red.
When he woke up when he woke up, he was as excited as a child, and in a trance, I seemed to see the blog post that had been shouting "Uncle Uncle" after me since I was a child.
For a whole month, Bowen took care of me.
During the day, he hired a nurse for me, and at night he came to take care of me after work, wiping my body, feeding me food and water, not too dirty or too tired.
To be honest, I had mixed thoughts at the time.
Bowen is a child I watched grow up, and he is also the closest to me, and I have poured a lot of energy into him, and I want to count on him in my heartBut later, I felt that he was too purposeful, and I always couldn't accept it in my heart.
But now I am very touched to see his sincerityI guess that's not the case even with my own son.
When I was discharged from the hospital, I told Bowen that when I was discharged from the hospital, I would transfer the money he had paid before, and Bowen comforted me, saying that the money was not urgent, and the most important thing was to take care of my health.
I grabbed Bowen's hand again and said:
"Uncle has one more thing I want to discuss with you. ”
In the future, I will work hard for you, help take care of the uncle, the uncle is old, you can't leave people around you, and after the uncle is a hundred years old, my property will belong to you. ”
It's okay if I don't say this, but as soon as I said it, Bowen cried.
Bowen later choked up and said to me:
"Uncle, I was wrong, I used to be young and didn't know the severity, and I said something that hurt you, and I regretted it for a long time, but I don't know how to explain it to you, and I also have a knot in my heart. ”
I have been a father myself over the years, and I also know that it is not easy to raise a child, and I have always been very grateful that my uncle loved me as his own son. ”
I discussed this with my wife later, my wife and I are only children, we both have parents to take care of, we still have our own jobs, and children to take care of, according to my current energy is a little powerless, I am afraid that I will not be able to provide for you well after agreeing to you, which will make you sad and disappointed. ”
Of course, I also thought about it, I will be responsible for you, I want to find you a nanny to take care of you every day, I will always supervise, every three or five I will go to see you, so that the nanny will not dare to be lazy and slippery,As for your house and property, I don't want it, you have to keep the money for your own retirement, and with these is the confidence of your retirement. ”
Uncle, do you think so? ”
After being discharged from the hospital, Bowen really found a good nanny with me.
This eldest sister speaks cheerfully, does things neatly and cleanly, I am very satisfied, and Bowen did not disappoint me, I came over every now and then to see, if I have any ideas, let Bowen say it,The nanny looked at Bowen in charge of the house and felt that I had the support of young people, so she was even more diligent.
I've been living like this for more than 3 years now, and I don't have any mental burden now.
I just feel at ease when I think that Bowen is doing this for my own good, for my sake, It's not that he doesn't want to take responsibility, but he wants to give me a better old age, their husband and wife are only children, and they have a heavy burden in the face of four old people, if he is really greedy for my money, he will coax me to be happy and take away all my money.
But he didn't do that, and he made a separate arrangement for me after careful consideration.
Now it seems that Bowen has really grown up, matured, and has his own responsibility, and I will be relieved in the future.