Between husband and wife, a comfortable relationship in two sentences

Mondo Culture Updated on 2024-02-01

The philosopher Alain de Botton once said:

There is a lot of pain in marriage, and it comes from the misleading romantic view of love. ”

Before entering marriage, many people will fantasize that romantic love has finally come to fruition, and they are looking forward to starting a family with their lover.

But looking at the partner who judged the two before marriage, his heart fell into doubt and internal friction.

In fact, many people are unhappy in their marriages because their hearts are full of fantasies about romantic love.

When you learn to break the romance and find a way to be comfortable with your partner in marriage, you will find that marriage is not so bad.

When you are confused and tired, there is always a light left for you; There is a table of meals waiting for you to taste.

Learn to "communicate non-violently" and be a loving lover

I've read a sentence:

In marriage, the lover needs a sense of identity, not being preached. ”

When her lover encounters troubles outside and comes home tired, she just wants a warm hug and a warm echo.

Instead of listening to your preaching with an already tired heart.

I once read a story about a woman who met a very picky leader at work, and although she was meticulous in her work, the other party was still picky, which made her very aggrieved.

When she got home, she complained to her husband and wanted to hear his comfort;

Who knew that after her husband heard it, he began to teach her, teaching her the experience of "people who have come over": "I only work hard and don't know how to report, and take the initiative to let the leader find out what I have paid."

Her husband looked good for her, but found that his wife's face was getting worse and worse.

The woman said, "I want a husband now, not a teacher!" ”

Only then did he realize that he only wanted to reason with his wife, but ignored her feelings.

Good feelings, there is warmth in the words. A good lover has each other in his eyes, and being a loving lover can make his partner feel your love.

Even if you want her to understand that you want her to grow, please comfort her heart before reasoning.

I believe that at that time, she will adore you even more.

Let the marriage have a "fault tolerance" and be a generous lover

Zhou Guoping said: "Home is a small boat that has to carry us through such a long time. ”

After getting married, the two of them are a new family, and we will spend the next few decades with the person next to us.

Everyone will have a time to relax, everyone also has their own shortcomings, lower expectations for the partner, allow the other party to have the opportunity to "make mistakes", two people will be happier.

Today, I brushed up on a **, which is about a wife who asked her husband to change the filter of the air conditioner after playing the game, and the husband agreed.

But when she came out of the shower, she found that her husband was still playing a game, and another game was played after the game.

The wife is holding back her anger, while the husband finishes the game and prepares for bed.

The wife thought that if she mentioned it again, the two would definitely quarrel;

She had to pretend to be asleep with her back to her husband, who naturally covered her with the quilt and turned off the light.

The next morning, the wife woke up to find that her husband was changing the filter, including the filter of other appliances.

Marriage is not a battlefield, partners are not enemies, two people get along, the important thing is not right or wrong, but comfort.

Reducing expectations of your partner, believing that he has his own plans, and not locking his behavior according to his own ideas can make two people more harmonious and more comfortable.

In any case, the person who was recognized at first sight, even if it is not good, will occupy the most important position in his heart.

Instead of two people arguing over a trivial matter, it is better to let the marriage have a "fault tolerance", be a generous lover, make yourself relaxed, and make each other comfortable.

"I don't believe there are two people in this world who are perfectly compatible, and if there is, it must be the result of the two working together," said Mr. Deca. ”

I hope that every couple can find a way to get along with each other comfortably, tolerate each other, run in with each other, and become two people who are completely compatible. List of high-quality authors

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