When I was a child, I often heard adults say, "I have crossed more bridges than you walked", and I have always admired them, and I dare not make mistakes in many things. Later, as I grew older, I gradually understood that the complexity of the world is not the fisherman's summer cultivation, but the human heart.
You can make friends and become a "social cow", or even "travel thousands of miles, read thousands of books", and become a learned Confucian, but you still can't understand people's hearts. You can try to interpret it with sincerity, try to decipher it with sincerity, but it is unwise to try to understand it, because other people's hearts may have been divided by "indifference", so the space allocated to you is limited. If he can give you most of the space, it is enough to show that he cherishes you, in that case, there is no need to read the mind, his heart itself belongs to you.
It doesn't matter whether it's friendship or friendship. The important thing is between people, the degree of spiritual fit, don't say anything, don't do anything, just a look or a thought, the heart is together, this is more wonderful than anything, but this beauty often comes from the mutual cherishing of relatives. And our daily interactions may be more cherished. If you value him, give him a space to have his own secrets. If he values you, he will respect you, whether it is a friend or a loved one.
I once wrote an insight about human affection, and the most difficult love in the world is human affection. Although there are warm and cold feelings, but human feelings are often only in a moment, and there are too many things that we can't let go of in our lives, because we have too many concerns in our hearts, and we naturally accept too many human feelings. This world makes people suffer and torture because of this favor, don't take it too seriously, because there are many favors that we can't repay, and it's enough to be grateful. Don't care about human affection, know his goodness, know his heart, remember every moment in life, cherish everything you have, and let the warmth return to the whole society, which is also a kind of life attitude of human affection.
We often say "treat people well and be strict with them", and this kind of requirement is really a bit difficult to achieve. But don't do things that hurt others, it's relatively easy, even if he doesn't care, even if he allows it, as long as there is an element of harm, please stop, this is actually a kind of goodness, a kind of regulation.
As social beings, we all live in a world of love for each other, family, friendship, feelings, love, friendship, friendship, etc., all need to be cherished by both parties or even many parties. If you feel tired, go and see the mountains, look at the water, release the resentment in your heart, and start all over again.
If the former friendship fades with time, if the former friendship is overshadowed by a layer of utilitarianism and practicality. Even then, there is no need for us to be sad about it, this kind of flower of friendship lacks the moisture of sunshine and the watering of integrity, how can it be thriving, how can it bloom more and more.
I've eaten more salt than you eat", don't believe that, you won't be salted to death in that way. Treat life, life, and feelings, we can believe in people's experience, we can have feelings, we can have faith, but don't expect to read people's hearts. Since it is so difficult to read people's hearts, it is better to read yourself.