These behaviors of children are obviously lacking in love, but parents proudly think that children have high emotional intelligence.
Have you noticed that some children always behave very sensibly and considerately, so that adults can't help but praise: "This child has such a high emotional intelligence!" ”
However, as a counselor, I would like to tell you a truth that may surprise you: these behaviors may actually be a sign of a child's lack of love.
Yes, you heard it right. Those children who seem well-behaved and obedient,There may be a deep desire for more attention and love in the heart. They learned to read words and looks, they learnedHide your true feelingsJust to cater to the expectations and preferences of adults. Such a child is distressing. Let's take a look at the truth behind these "high EQ" behaviors:
Overly well-behaved and sensible:Children are naturally curious and exploratory, but if they are too well-behaved and sensible, it may mean that they are trying to avoid causing trouble for their parents. They are afraid that their demands will become a burden to their parents, so they choose to bear it silently.
.Excessive pursuit of perfection :Some children are extremely demanding of themselves, even to the point of being harsh. This may be because they want to win their parents' approval and affection by performing perfectly. However, behind this pursuit of perfection, there is often an inferiority complex and anxiety.
3.Being excessively submissive to others:Some children habitually obey the wishes of others when they are with others, even when they are not happy. This may be because they want to win the favor and approval of others in this way, as a way to make up for the lack of love in their hearts.
Dear parents, when you see your child exhibiting these "high emotional intelligence" behaviors, please do not be blindly proud. Try to understand their true feelings and needs, and give them enough love and support. It is only when children truly feel loved that they can face life's challenges with confidence and poise.