Why do I need to prepare the New Year's goods of my uncle's family? My mother-in-law said that my brother-in-law didn't make any money this year, I said I don't have any money, and my mother-in-law said that if you don't have any money, you're better than your brother-in-law, so what if I don't go back, he won't be a New Year? Mother-in-law said that if she didn't go back, she would transfer him 16,000, I'm not used to my brother-in-law's problem," Xiao Mei said, what happened?
46-year-old Xiao Mei.
Mother-in-law only has this little son in her heart, in his eyes, her husband is the boss, and the boss has to be responsible for everything for her younger brother, her father-in-law left early, and her husband is 6 years older than her brother-in-law, and her mother-in-law's theory is that the eldest brother is the father, so what the little brother-in-law lacks in studying, working, and getting married, all let the husband do it.
My brother-in-law got married last year and bought a house, my mother-in-law forced us to buy a house for 200,000 yuan, my monthly salary is 5,000 yuan, my husband is more, 12,000 a month, but we have to repay the mortgage 6,000, and the child still has to spend, my mother-in-law doesn't care, my brother-in-law bought a house with a difference of 200,000, and my mother-in-law asked us to take out 200,000 yuan, and if we don't give it, we will go on a hunger strike and not eat, my husband is a filial son, whatever my mother-in-law says, he will do it, I know my husband's personality, I just don't take it, and my husband will find a way to borrow it everywhere, will also give 200,000 to the brother-in-law.
Last year's New Year, the little uncle's family spent the New Year at the mother-in-law's house, the little uncle spent the New Year at the mother-in-law's house, there was no need to prepare anything, the little uncle came, and the mother-in-law's face was happy, especially when she saw the little grandson, it was really in her hand for fear of melting, and it hurt to the tip of her heart.
Since I got married to my husband, I prepared the New Year's goods every year, and last year I spent 3,000 yuan just to buy New Year's goods, and my mother-in-law also said that I was less prepared, and my mother-in-law asked me to go to her house three days in advance, and I had no choice, so I asked for leave in advance to go to my mother-in-law's house.
I have been to the little uncle to come to my mother-in-law's house three days in advance, my mother-in-law said that he should not be himself**, I have to prepare meals for 7 people alone, my mother-in-law also likes to eat handmade steamed buns, I don't want to eat bought outside, my brother-in-law likes to eat leek shrimp dumplings, mother-in-law likes to eat Chinese cabbage dumplings, brother and daughter-in-law like to eat celery dumplings, every time I wrap dumplings, I have to pack them separately.
I was so tired, my brother and daughter-in-law were idle, I asked my brother and daughter-in-law to come over to help, but my mother-in-law didn't let me, saying that my brother-in-law's hands were playing the piano and couldn't do rough work, and my mother-in-law didn't have to hide her partiality.
I spent 2,000 yuan on Chinese New Year's Eve dinner alone, my mother-in-law said that my little grandson loves lobster, let me buy Australian lobster, let me buy clothes for my little grandson for 1500, my mother-in-law asked me to give her little grandson 6000 yuan red envelope, I gave, my brother and daughter-in-law gave my daughter 600 red envelopes, my mother-in-law gave my daughter 600 red envelopes, and gave her little grandson 2000 red envelopes.
I told my husband that my mother-in-law was too partial, and my husband said that I should not worry about my mother-in-law, as long as she is happy, we must meet my mother-in-law's requirements within our ability, he has no father, and he can't do without his mother, so as long as my mother-in-law speaks, whether she is unreasonable or not, my husband will satisfy my mother-in-law, and my mother-in-law has also grasped my husband's psychology, so my mother-in-law will open her mouth with me.
Last year, the brother-in-law got married and bought a house, originally the brother-in-law bought a small set, we gave 50,000 yuan, but the younger brother and daughter-in-law wanted 140, I didn't want to be small, I didn't want to get married, and my mother-in-law immediately asked my husband to get 150,000 yuan, and my husband told me, I was very angry, I said no, I can only give 50,000.
I still want to change to a bigger house, I don't have money, how much can the little uncle do how much things, after my mother-in-law knew, she said that I was stingy, and I was stingy, and I was working against her, delaying the marriage of the little brother-in-law, and I was a sinner in their family, if I didn't give it, let my husband give her the money from now on, in short, I didn't give it, and in the end I still didn't give it, and my mother-in-law actually went on a hunger strike and didn't eat, and now my husband could stand it, and I gave an ultimatum to divorce if I didn't give it, or I would hand over the salary to my mother-in-law in the future.
I'm really barefoot and not afraid of wearing shoes, I'm afraid that my mother-in-law will have a problem, I'm really a sinner, and then I gave all the family's savings to my brother-in-law, I asked my brother-in-law to make an IOU, and my mother-in-law said what kind of IOU, when the eldest brother should take care of the younger brother, my husband also said that if I don't play an IOU, it is for the little brother-in-law.
This is not this year is almost the New Year, last year to prepare 3000 years of goods, mother-in-law said not enough, this year I will prepare 4000 yuan, listen to my husband, the little uncle will not go to the mother-in-law's house this year for the New Year, I am still happy in my heart, said this is good, I don't have to spend so much money, warrior red envelopes, and buy clothes, Chinese New Year's Eve dinner will be easier.
My husband said that this year I will give my mother-in-law less than that, last year I gave my mother-in-law 10,000 yuan, this year to 6,000 yuan, my husband is still unwilling, I said we have no savings, in case something happens, who to borrow? My husband also knew that our house was empty, so he didn't say anything.
* Ringing, I picked up** and saw that it was my mother-in-law's** and picked it up, "You prepare more New Year's goods this year" I said that I prepared 4,000 yuan of New Year's goods enough for us to eat, and my mother-in-law said, "Not enough, although your brother-in-law does not come to our house, but the in-laws want to go to the brother-in-law's house, you have to prepare 6,000 yuan of New Year's goods for them, you can't let your brother-in-law lose face, and the in-laws will go to your brother-in-law's house for the first time for the New Year".
As soon as I heard that I was going to prepare New Year's goods for my brother-in-law's family, I was unhappy, and I said, "If they don't come for the New Year, just let them prepare their own New Year's goods, they are all married, and it's time to be independent".
The mother-in-law said, "Your brother-in-law is a child in my eyes no matter when, and you, who are big brothers and sisters-in-law, must prepare, and you should prepare for me."
I said, "Mom, we don't have any money, we gave 200,000 yuan to my brother-in-law last year, and our family was empty," and my mother-in-law said, "Don't you have a salary?" Your wages are higher than theirs, and their wages are not as high as his eldest brother's."
I said, "But we still have to pay off the mortgage," my mother-in-law said I don't care what you repay, in short, you have to prepare 6,000 New Year's goods for them, not only New Year's goods, but also to transfer 10,000 to him, his father-in-law and mother-in-law come to celebrate the New Year, he must buy clothes and gifts for their in-laws, and take them out to play, don't pay back these and that."
I said, "Mom, you are too partial, I only gave my mother 2,000 yuan, why should I give him money, he bought it for his father-in-law and mother-in-law, I have this money, I might as well buy it for my parents".
The mother-in-law said, "Your parents have a retirement salary, they have money, they don't have to buy such a good one, and besides, when a woman gets married, she should not give anything to her mother's family, but put her mother-in-law's family first."
My parents are retired salaries, my dad is 3000 per month, my mom is 2800 per month, but I am a daughter, I buy my parents is my mind, last year I bought a 1000 yuan dress for my mom, my mom also complained that I spent money indiscriminately, saying that now the money is not easy to make, the general environment is sluggish, let me save a little, she has clothes to wear.
I think about my mother, I always think about saving money for me, and my mother-in-law, no matter how much we give, it should be, just because my husband is the eldest son, and my mother-in-law is so partial to the little grandson, and because we gave birth to a daughter.
When my mother-in-law heard me say this, she immediately hung up ** and called her husband to complain, saying that I didn't want to help my brother-in-law and wanted to see my brother-in-law's jokes, and my brother-in-law also called my husband **, and asked my husband to help him prepare money, and my husband also had a headache.
I told my husband that if you blindly follow your mother-in-law, your brother-in-law will be a bottomless pit, and you will have to take care of everything as your eldest brother, which will cause him to be dependent, and my husband nodded, "I understand the reason, but my mother feels so sorry for my brother, what do you say I should do?" It's almost the New Year, and if you want to make my mother unhappy, she has blood pressure and can't go to the hospital? ”
I said that my husband is stupid and filial, I can't go on like this, I should give my mother-in-law, but I want to give my brother-in-law New Year's goods, and I have to give them money, there is no such regulation, my brother-in-law is married and has her own family, she is responsible for her own family, and we have our own home, you can't give all the money to the little brother-in-law, let us live a hard life haha, my husband's mobile phone has been used for several years, I said to change it, he said no, save some money, there are many places to spend money, and he is not willing to change.
Last year, I was optimistic about a coat for 5,000 yuan, I tried it and it was very suitable, but when it came time to pay, I was stunned whether I was reluctant to buy it for myself, or put it back, did I have my own money and wouldn't spend it?
I'm better with my husband, I will give my mother-in-law's money and New Year's goods, but I won't transfer my brother-in-law's money, I won't go to the New Year this year, my parents are not in good health, I haven't been with my parents for several years, I decided that I will take my daughter to my parents' house for the New Year, you have to go back, you go back, I won't go back. My husband saw that my attitude was so resolute and in a dilemma, I said that there was no position but the end, I was just too good at talking, and my mother-in-law would become even worse like this.
If it were you, what would you do? Do you transfer 16,000 to your brother-in-law, or don't give it? What do you think about this, welcome to leave a message in the comment area, we are a common **emotional topic, thank you for your like, support and attention!