When I saw a sentence today, I was particularly emotional.
This sentence is: People do not know the evil of their sons, and they do not know the fruits of their seedlings.
What does that mean?
People are partial, especially those who are close to him. For parents, what they care about most is their children, and it is always the last one that they realize the problems and vices in their children. It means that parents are always partial to their children, and they don't need to fuck him when he gets into trouble, and they don't admit that their children are not as good as others. They always think that other seedlings grow better and grow stronger, forgetting that in fact, their own seedlings are also thieves. Other people's children, after all, are someone else's, and the parents just put pressure on their own dolls, hoping that he can catch up with the unwilling queen after being stimulated. In fact, many times, his doll has been extremely remarkable, but no one wants to go further.
People's hearts are biased to the left, and naturally people will be biased. Without him, it's just the law of nature.
It's just that children's growth needs more objective guidance from parents. Right is right, wrong is wrong, you can't always suppress or always fuck him, I don't think it's interesting. Do a good job, praise and praise, reward and reward; If you do something wrong, you should criticize and criticize, and you should improve and improve. Blindly thinking that one's own son is good and the crops in other people's fields are growing well will not help much in solving the problem. In addition to cultivating a child's arrogant personality or cowardly temperament, how much will it help him in life? Maybe add resistance.
is a human being, and there are advantages and disadvantages, even if it is your own baby. This is an objective fact, whether you like it or not, whether you like it or not, whether you like it or not, the advantages are the advantages, and the disadvantages are the disadvantages. can't wait until he gets burned to regret that he didn't beat that stinky boy yellow haired girl when he made a mistake.
It is much better to correct mistakes in time than to do nothing when a catastrophe is coming. I admit that children are the good of their own family, but they still need to be educated, and they must be punished. If you don't educate him on how to guide him to the right path, if you don't punish him, how to know his mistakes, maybe he still thinks, my father doesn't talk about me, don't be afraid, he will take care of everything, this time he will cause you a little trouble, if you don't govern, next time he will be able to give you the whole big black cauldron, let you carry it heavily.
In the same way, crops are grown well by other people's homes. But the advantage is that he looks good, you also have to see the shortcomings, he doesn't blossom and has no fruit, he just grows tall and goes to the sky, he doesn't care about people and doesn't communicate. Of course, today's children of other people's families must be more powerful, after all, everyone attaches great importance to education. The babies of other people's families are all the combination of the master of Avanti Gabayi, and they have more advantages. Then let him go more, the starting point is different, why bother yourself and the child to force the same. A generation has a generation's responsibility, a generation has a generation's dedication, do their own work, do their best ability, and be worthy of their hearts.
These rambling words for a long time, just tell myself: people are tall, short, fat and thin, things have advantages and disadvantages, can treat problems politely, rationally analyze logic, do not generalize, can do realistic and specific analysis of specific problems, it is already extremely remarkable. What you have to do is not to affect your specific judgment because of your senses about a certain person.
Parents behave this way towards their children, so what is the attitude of children towards their parents?
Simple, that is: if you don't give me expectations, you don't give me love, then alienating you is like being separated by a sea; I don't update you on the news, I don't tell you about my mentality, everything makes you guess, and you are listless; Even, my mind becomes suspicious, and I start to think about whether you suspect that I have a problem with my IQ, and you don't want to give me a little more warmth, then I will give you endless psychological torture.
Hey, you see, this kid, sensitive, greedy, endlessly tempting your bottom line. You say that you don't rectify your mentality, you don't punish his words and deeds, can you do it? Who knows what strange things he will do that you don't expect.
As the saying goes, bodhisattvas fear causes, and mortals fear effects. Then let your child know what the consequences of doing the right thing are and what the consequences of doing the wrong thing are. It is better to teach people a thousand times than to teach them once. After all, unforgettable losses will last forever under the refinement of memory, and they are not easy to be replaced and erased by new things.
It is normal for parents to give warmth to their children, but it is not enough to have warmth, they must also let him understand that there is cold in the world. While parents give their children warmth, they should also teach their children to give their parents some warmth. After all, only two-way running is the best love, only one party pays that is unrequited love, that is licking the dog licking the toes of the beloved, no one will take his affection to heart. Don't give cheap love at will, no one remembers your heart.
The best thing we need to do is to face reality objectively, grasp the angle and proportion of handling things, and teach children benevolence, trust, warmth and love.
Warm fields.
There are only a few poplar trees.
The roots, deep and shallow, are rooted in the water.
The branches stretched out to the sky, holding up the birds that came and went.
There are only a few lotus flowers, in the middle of the lotus leaves that look like umbrella covers.
Dotted sporadically, quietly open.
Occasionally, fish swim underneath.
Wake up the bright eyes of the three-year-old brother.
There are only a few small red, white, or yellow flowers.
It is open on the slope next to the railway.
Throw a stone and beat a sheep.
Those flowers, and green weeds.
They were all taken away by the sheep and began a reincarnation.
Only some of the green wheat shone brightly.
Sandwiched between them are some white, red, turnips.
When the snow comes, the wheat becomes even greener.
The turnips have been marinated in the jar.
After a while, chew in the mouth, so sour.
There are only a few sparrows and wild gulls, flying overhead.
There are also a few eagle chirps once in a while.
It rang on the edge of a cliff not far away.
Sometimes, you can see the fluttering wings of the young eagles.
There are only a few such days.
The sun is warm, and a person walks on the road in the field.
From one ramp to another.
Look at the sweet potatoes and young leaves, or the peanuts and yellow flowers.
The fields are quiet, and the occasional wind comes.
Set off a blue wave.
Reflect me in it.
From afar, he was alone.