In the blink of an eye, the winter vacation is coming, the "mythical beast" is returning home, and parents hope that their children can play when they should play and learn when they should learn.
But at the same time, parents are busier!
One more child is like having an extra "trouble maker" at home, and the home is always messy. Many parents seem to regard all the housework as an adult's business, and the children here are littered, and the parents over there follow and clean up, without stopping for a moment.
The child is still young, I can do what I can, he just needs to study hard. Many parents feedback.
I am afraid that my children will not do well and that it will affect my learning ......”
In the treatment of children to do housework, many parents have such ideas, and even young parents said that now that technology and service industries are developed, sweepers, dishwashers, nannies, and hourly workers can help complete housework, and there is no need to let children "get into it".
Is it still necessary to develop children's ability to do housework?
Song Shaowei, the founder of Learning, said this:"Every child develops their own dressing routine as they learn to dress. It's like looking at the known or the unknown first, everyone has their own unique solution process. Learning to develop your own procedures is a must in every child's life. ”
Learn to draw inferences from each other in housework
At a public welfare sharing symposium, Ms. Song once introduced the relevant concepts and theories of the active learning system to parents.
A mother asked Teacher Song, "Teacher Song, I am Kiki's mother. My child lacks the ability to draw inferences as you mentioned, what's the problem? How should we parents guide this? ”
"Inferences are a kind of program customization. ”Teacher Song explained and asked, "How is the child's self-care ability?" Do you not do housework at home? ”
How do you know? My child has very poor self-care skills, and he can't do housework at all! Kiki's mother widened her eyes in surprise."The ability to customize and upgrade programs is actually a human instinct. Every progress of human beings is a process of customization to continuous escalation of a program. And each child is gradually developed and formed in the process of learning to take care of himself. ”Teacher Song introduced it like this.
Why does housework affect children's learning?
According to a 2014 survey of more than 20,000 parents and 20,000 primary school students conducted by the Chinese Academy of Education Sciences on the status of family educationThe child is responsible for one or two household chores, and his or her grades are better.
Among the families surveyed, it is believed"As long as you study well, you can do housework or not."family, the proportion of children excellent is only, and think"Children should do some chores".The proportion of children with excellent children is as high
How can housework have such magical powers?
Cooking, for example, is executing a program. The resulting recipe is a customized program. It clearly tells us what to do in the first step and what to do in the second step ......When it comes to practical application, we will also adjust it according to the specific situation, which is the process of transforming and upgrading the program and customizing the exclusive new program.
"So, you can train your child's ability to customize the program by letting them do the chores they can. Studies have shown that nearly 40% of learning ability is related to life ability, which is from life to learning, and the core of this is the transfer of program customization ability. ”
Your child is already in his teens, is he missing the best time to practice program customization? Kiki's mother asked worriedly.
It's never too late to make amends. Go back and communicate with your family well, and everyone will work together to create more opportunities for children to exercise their self-care skills. In the process, he will gradually form and improve the life and study routines. ”
[Age chart for children to learn to do housework].
5-6 years old
Help wipe the table.
Help with changing bed linen.
Prepare your school bag and shoes to wear when you go to kindergarten the next day.
Clean up your room and get into the habit of picking up things that are messed up and putting them back in their place.
7-12 years old
Able to wash dishes with the help of parents.
Cook simple meals.
Mop the floor. Clean the restroom.
Would use the washing machine.
13 years of age or older
Replace the garbage bag in the vacuum cleaner.
Clean up the refrigerator, stove, etc.
Life is a classroom for children to do well. Leading children to learn to live and survive is far better than a variety of extracurricular tutoring classes. Accompanying children to grow up in life, parents often find it easier to find an entry point to solve their children's learning problems.
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