Why can't parents get their children appreciated for all they do? You'll understand after reading it
Many Chinese parents devote themselves wholeheartedly to their children, but some children never know how to be grateful, and even some children do not respect their parents, always do things arbitrarily, and parents always feel powerless.
Educational problems often lead to frequent family conflicts, and both parents and children are unhappy. Why do some parents give everything they have, but they can't let their children know how to be grateful?
i.Children do not respect their parents.
Some time ago, a piece of news attracted widespread attention from the society. A little boy who doesn't want to go to school makes his mother feel powerless. After repeated attempts by the mother to no avail, the child came up with a shocking condition: he would only be willing to go to school if the mother knelt.
In order to send the child to school, the mother really knelt, and knelt for an hour. In the end, the child did not go to school because of this, continued to play with his mobile phone, and even sent his mother's kneeling ** to the circle of friends to show off.
This news makes people wonder, why are today's children less and less honoring their parents? According to a questionnaire survey, the most respected person in the hearts of Chinese children is not their parents, but other people.
Many times, parents pamper and dote on their children, making them feel superior and thus disrespecting their children even more. This humble attitude of parents not only makes children feel that their parents' words are weak, but also makes education lose its power.
Over time, children not only do not know how to honor their parents, but also become more and more willful, and make more and more unreasonable demands on their parents. Faced with this situation, parents need to reflect on their own education methods and not take their children too seriously.
Parents are an important role in the growth of children, and their words and deeds affect children invisibly. If parents are always doting on their children and being humble to them, children will also unconsciously think that their parents have no dignity and do not respect themselves.
ii - Why the child does not respect his parents.
Chinese parents often fall into misunderstandings in the process of educating their children, which may seem beneficial to their children in the short term, but can have a negative impact on their children's development in the long run.
Many parents too"Competent", took on almost all the responsibilities and work of the child. They firmly believe that as long as the child studies well, everything will be fine. This overprotection causes the child to lose the ability to live independently and learn to be grateful.
Children who grow up in such an environment have never experienced setbacks and often take their parents' love for granted and have no gratitude. Pampering is a misconception that many Chinese parents tend to fall into, selflessly giving their children love without teaching them to share and reciprocate it.
Children are cared for by more than one adult at home and are generously rewarded for the slightest improvement. However, this pampering can make children lose the ability to distinguish between right and wrong, and once the balance of love is broken, they will show complaints and hatred.
There are also parents who are used to doing everything for their children and not giving their children the right to choose.
They believe that the affairs of the children are their own and should be led by the parents. This practice deprives children of their autonomy and distorts their minds. They may become rebellious and hate their parents even more.
3. How to let children know how to respect.
Chinese parents like to control and overprotect their children, while foreign education focuses more on nurturing their children's independence and adventurous spirit. Foreign parents encourage their children to participate in family life from an early age, so that they learn to take care of themselves and give to others.
When children reach a certain age, they need to pay their own expenses independently, which fosters a sense of responsibility and independence. Such an upbringing will make children more grateful and grateful, as they realize from an early age that nothing in life is smooth sailing.
Chinese parents tend to ignore their children's emotions, so parents should teach their children to learn to love and be loved, so that they can get satisfaction in the process of helping others.
Parents should lead by example by conveying the importance of love and gratitude through their words and actions. Children who grow up in such an environment will naturally understand better what is truly meaningful.
The most important thing is for parents to learn to speak up to their children"Nope"to cultivate the right values in children. Satisfying children's needs excessively will not only not enrich their spiritual world, but will make them selfish and willful.
Parents should let their children realize that not everything is achieved overnight, and they should strive for what they want through their own efforts, so that children can learn to be grateful and grateful.
Conclusion. Parents should learn from the advantages of foreign education and focus on cultivating their children's independence and adventurous spirit. At the same time, it is also necessary to pay attention to the emotional and spiritual world of children, and teach them to learn to love and be loved.
Through the right guidance and education, we can help children develop good living habits and make them realize that not everything is hard-won, and they must strive for what they want through their own efforts, so as to learn to be grateful and grateful.
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