Yesterday a reader asked me, how do I know if I'm with the right person? How can you tell that this relationship is right?
How so? At first, I thought the right feelings were very abstract, after all, everyone's likes are different.
Later, I gradually found out that in fact, the real right people can have the same impact on us, and they are all positive.
I have summarized the following points and share them with you.
You will have a physical liking for him, in layman's terms, that is, you want to sleep with him, and you will not be disgusted by his intimate contact.
This is actually very important.
I had a fan before, saying that she was going on a blind date, and after coming back, her mother kept asking her how she was?
She thought about it for a long time and replied, "I don't feel like I can sleep with him."
She originally thought that her words would frighten her mother, but after her mother was stunned for a while, she replied to her, then forget it.
Truth be told, the right person is based on biological liking, that is, you should be able to meet each other's basic needs.
That is, if you have that kind of thought about him, he has that kind of thought about you, and that's the natural attraction.
The right people will support your dreams and encourage you to be better.
When we meet the right person, this relationship will inspire you to grow again. For example, you suddenly want to get better and say, "I want to try and do something."
And he will tell you, then you just do it, I think you can do it, I support you!
Because of this encouragement, you are more sure of your goals, and through your own efforts, you become better than before.
A right person, a right love, will stimulate your desire to explore the world, and will also bring you the courage to grow.
In my opinion, the wrong person will just say forget it, you can't do it, and then suppress you, make you inferior, and become bad.
And the right person, he will not stop you from flying, he will become a parachute, when you need his help, gently support your tiredness.
This one is an extension of the previous one, and when you get better, you will find a new version of yourself, a part of your body that you have never understood.
That is, you begin to understand yourself better, know your own shortcomings in a certain aspect, and you begin to grow from the inside out.
There are some things you think you can't do, but the right person encourages you, so you decide to give it a try, and it works, and you suddenly realize that I can do it!
A whole new world is opened, a new you is discovered, and your self-perception is upgraded. That's what a healthy relationship brings to you.
You are together, you get along very comfortably, and you don't get tired for a long time.
If it is said that when you are with the wrong person, you are always walking on thin ice, for fear that you will do something wrong and say the wrong thing, and you will not be loved, then the right person is the opposite.
With the right person, you feel relaxed, you don't have to be inhibited, you can be completely yourself, and you are sure that they are themselves.
You know what each other's shortcomings are, and you won't be afraid to expose them in front of each other.
Because you know that He always loves you, even if you're not perfect.
With the right person, the pressure becomes very small, especially when you encounter difficulties, you will know that you still have a person, you are not alone.
There will be people who will accompany you to fight against the storms of life together, and there will be people who will stand beside you and say that if you are tired, you will sleep, you still have me.
This is true love, two people become a community, overcome difficulties and obstacles together, and cross thousands of mountains together.
When you are with the right person, you will start to look forward to marriage, look forward to tomorrow, and look forward to a good life.
Because this relationship gives you enough confidence, you like him very much, you want a new page in your life, and even think of the names of your children.
With the right people, the meal is fragrant, tomorrow is beautiful, although life is very bitter, but with you will be very sweet.
To be precise, when you are with the right person, you will feel that no matter how difficult things are, they will get better, and you will have hope and courage in your heart.
Of course, with the right person, it is impossible to always be so happy, Nan You has written a lot of articles before, saying that there must be unpleasant parts when falling in love.
When you are with the right person, you will occasionally feel uncomfortable, feel that you are giving, compromising, and tolerating each other.
But on the other hand, it is precisely because of love that you are willing to give, so you are willing to forget the selfish" interests, and occasionally choose to pay more in order to make the other person happy.
That's what I'm trying to say, when you meet the right person, you can't help but want to see them happy, even if doing so makes you "sacrifice" some of your happiness.
Love is not asking whether it is worth it or not, love is that as long as you are happy, I feel happy.