Have you ever bought a lot of books that you didn't read, bought a lot of classes and couldn't take a few lessons? Do you have a lot of plans, do you never stop collecting, do you never start moving?
You always feel that you have worked hard, why can't you do it?
Sadly, these efforts are your fake efforts to numb yourself. I used to be like that, immersed in my own fake efforts.
Don't be anxious, don't be discouraged, dare to face your own problems, you have taken the first step towards success. Hopefully, a few thoughts on how I can get rid of fake efforts can help you.
What is Fake Effort?
What is fake effort, you can understand it as ineffective effort, the act of effort, the effort is given, but the desired result is not obtained.
Why? Because our efforts are motivated by satisfying a certain emotion, rather than solving a problem, the result of our efforts becomes self-comforting rather than actual results.
For example, you originally wanted to acquire knowledge, increase wisdom, and learn skills, so you bought a lot of books, signed up for a lot of classes, and collected a lot of knowledge**.
The result is a rough flip of a few pages from the book I bought, and I just look at it. I still have unopened books, and the collector lies on the ** and I don't know how to do it.
Buying books, enrolling in classes, and collecting are just for psychological satisfaction, and I have bought, collected, and read = I have learned knowledge and gained wisdom.
Take knowledge payment as an example, why can knowledge payment be popular in recent years? Its essence is to cater to these users who have fake hard work.
The core needs of users should be to acquire knowledge, which can then be transformed into wisdom or skills, and finally achieve the result of self-growth.
But in fact, the core demand for knowledge payment has changed, no longer to get results, but to use "buying courses" to give yourself a state of active efforts, a project that seems likely to be successful, to resist your inner anxiety.
You will get what you pursue, you only pursue the "fake effort" of satisfying self-comfort, and of course you can only find the "sickle product" that sells emotions. If there is demand, there will be supply, so "fake effort" knowledge payment products will be popular.
No wonder there is such a popular saying in the knowledge leek circle, "I don't cut, he still has to be cut by others".
Of course, not all knowledge payments are sickles, just painkillers that solve your "labor pains", but real good medicine, even if you touch it, you can't look down on it, you don't recognize it.
We are all more inclined to choose the easy things, the things that can see the results immediately, and the fantasy that we will reap the seeds today and tomorrow.
In our anxiety, we all ignore the process of "labor", and we all forget the natural law of spring plowing and autumn harvest.
How to save yourself and get rid of fake efforts?
1. Fundamentally change thinking.
Human behavior is determined by the pleasure and pain at the physiological level, and to get rid of false effort, it is necessary to feel the positive results of real effort, correct behavior, and the pleasure of this result.
If you want to get rid of fake efforts and achieve real self-improvement, you must first shift your focus from "results" to "actions". Instead of paying attention to how many books you have read (bought) and how many cards you have played, you will feel the process and pay attention to what you have done today.
No longer the pursuit of "quantity", but the pursuit of "quality", a year of rough reading of 100 books, I prefer to read 10 books, after giving up the pursuit of "quantity", I am more focused, deeper, think more, enjoy the pleasure of being able to clearly feel self-growth.
2. Focus on the present moment and find your passion.
Those who know are not as good as those who are good, and those who are good are not as good as those who are happy. People who study hard are not as good as people who love to learn, and people who love learning are not as good as people who take pleasure in learning.
No matter what, once it is linked to hard work, the process is bound to be painful, no matter what, once we pour out love, the process is bound to be happy.
Do trees need to work hard to grow, and flowers need to work hard to bloom? Do little ones need to make an effort to play games? Don't push yourself to try.
Find something you're passionate about (reading, learning skills, crafts, musical instruments, etc.), and then have fun doing it and start doing something every day, focusing on the present moment, allowing yourself to "quiet" and stop being anxious.
3. Change in behavior and habits.
In recent years, Wang Yangming's "unity of knowledge and action" has been admired, but more often follow the trend and chase the heat, most of them are "knowing but not doing", or "doing ineffective".
Changing ideas leads to behavior change, and behavior change leads to self-change. In the same way, we can change our minds through our actions.
Change the previous fragmented and superficial learning methods, but learn to practice, think, review, and iterate in work and study.
A year ago, I wanted to improve myself, and I didn't have a project, so I wanted to start at work. I learned the Liège Plan, read work-related books, and then applied the knowledge in the books to my work, and continued to practice and optimize.
Over the past year, my work ability, efficiency, and effectiveness have been improved, and my KPI has doubled at the end of the year, and I have felt the growth brought by "real hard work", which has started my path of self-transformation.
And that's just the change that a daily plan, reading a few pages a day, and writing something every day.
Brief summary. Be clear about your goals: Have a clear idea of what you really want, focus on the right direction, and avoid wasting time and energy on unnecessary things.
Make a plan: Make a realistic plan that breaks down your goals, manage your time well, and make sure you're on track to get on track.
Focus on the present: Focus on what you are doing in the present and enjoy the process instead of dwelling on the past and worrying about the future.
Reflection and adjustment: Regularly check your progress and methods, think about whether there is room for improvement, and constantly adjust and optimize to ensure that you are "effective".