I was sitting in front of my computer in the living room doing my medical file when my daughter said to my mom, "Grandma, I want to eat fried chicken!" My mother replied, "Your mother won't let me!" Besides, my grandmother doesn't have any money, and your mother won't give me money. If I take you to eat, your mother will say grandma. ”
My mother talked to my daughter like this every time, and the file in my hand made me anxious, and when I heard my mother say this, I answered: "Mom, why do you talk to your child like this every time?" If you don't know how to bring it, I'll bring it myself. After that, I continued to bury my head in the file.
Afterwards, I realized that I had said the wrong thing in a hurry!
When my sister was born, my father died of a cerebral hemorrhage, leaving us mother and daughter to depend on each other, and my mother was alone for 30 years.
My uncle used the homestead of the two brothers to build a big house in his hometown, and from laying the foundation to decorating and moving in, our family did not pay a penny.
At the beginning, I said that my mother only has the right to use the third floor, no inheritance, after I got married, my mother moved out and followed me, and my sister married far away and had time to come back to see, now my mother cooks for me and takes the baby, we give her two thousand five living expenses every month [a family of five use], and then five thousand at the end of the year.
Just after the New Year, my mother and my cousin hit **, yesterday she has moved back to her hometown, she said: "Child, I don't take it anymore, I am going to go to the factory canteen to cook, with a monthly salary of 3,000." ”
I said, "Mom, I'm sorry! I talked heavily that day, don't make trouble, just live with us! ”
Mom said, "I know that my method of raising children is unscientific, so I am ready to let go." Your mother-in-law said that I have been enjoying happiness in your house and still receive money every year, and let your mother-in-law come in the future, and you will always feel that you have given too much for the living expenses of 2,005 a month. ”
I understand my mother's hard work, three meals a day, picking up and dropping off children for me in the wind and rain, especially my eldest was born with a crooked neck, when I was in Guangzhou, my mother and I ran back and forth between the rental house and the hospital every day, and my mother took on too much for me.
I wanted to respect my mother's own ideas, so I wanted to talk to my mother-in-law and let my mother-in-law take care of the children. The children cried and refused to talk to their grandmother, and my husband also said that my mother-in-law was used to farm work and would not adapt to life in the county, in fact, I didn't want to live with my mother-in-law.
In the past two days, I panicked and regretted why my mouth was so straight, which hurt my mother so much, and I didn't think about my mother from my mother's position.
Yesterday, my husband and I returned to our hometown with our children, and wanted the children to persuade my grandmother to go back.
During the banquet, my mother hugged my cousin and cried while talking, wanting to live in my hometown all the time, and didn't want to live with me anymore, my cousin comforted my mother and said, "Auntie, this will always be your home, you can live with peace of mind." ”
After dinner, we took the children home, my mother lived with me for eleven years, and it was really sad to suddenly see that there was no mother at home!
This is an incident that happened at my aunt's house, the protagonist of the incident is my aunt's daughter, a rural doctor, her husband is in the public institution of the next county, about my aunt's return to her hometown, we hope that my cousin will respect her mother, and let her mother-in-law experience this blessed life. After all, the most difficult days have been helped by their aunt and uncle, the eldest child is ten years old, and the youngest is seven years old.
Society is progressing, concepts are being updated, when communicating with parents, our generation and our parents, there will definitely be conflicts in concepts, if you blindly obey your parents, you will feel uncomfortable, if you fight with them, you will definitely hurt them, so in the face of conflict, don't always speak fast, hurt others and hurt yourself! If there is a conflict when educating children, you might as well sit down and talk together, find problems together, and solve problems!