The three sisters each gave their parents 200 yuan a month for their old age, and asked their son to give 400 yuan, but they were refused
Mr. Yuan in Sichuan had a disagreement with his three sisters over the issue of pension, which led to a heated dispute. In the dispute, each party stated its own reasons.
The three sisters provide their parents with $200 per month in alimony according to their respective family financial situation. Considering that Mr. Yuen was financially well-off, they proposed that Mr. Yuen pay $400, but Mr. Yuen did not agree. He responded: "It's impossible, 200 yuan is enough, the extra money is given for free, and we should divide it evenly according to the actual expenses of our parents." However, all three sisters expressed difficulties in paying the 400 yuan.
Mr. Yuen and the three sisters had a clear disagreement over the cost of pension, and there were different views on the appropriate amount of payment.
Mr. and Mrs. Yuan have four children, three of whom are cautious about the future of their retirement. At present, Mr. Yuan has suffered a cerebral infarction and has difficulty moving, and has been living in his son's house for four years. Both husband and wife are in their 70s and are in poor health.
Recently, the son hopes to take his mother out to live with his father and discuss the pension arrangements with his mother. However, the son proposed that the other three sisters share the expenses equally according to their parents' expenses, and the medical expenses should be shared equally, while the son would pay the rent, utilities, and gas bills. However, the three sisters expressed difficulties in this proposal, offering to pay 200 yuan per month each, for a total of 800 yuan, plus 300 yuan per month for their parents' rural medical insurance, a total of 1,100 yuan, which is enough to cover their parents' expenses.
Angry at this, Mr. Yuan feared that his sisters would not cooperate, so he personally sent his father to the second sister and threatened that if he was unwilling to accept him, the second sister would take care of him.
The eldest sister has been in debt due to financial difficulties, and at the same time, she has to take care of her elderly mother-in-law, which makes her unable to do so. The younger sister has no job and helps at the second sister's house, only her husband goes out to work at home, and she is financially constrained and cannot afford more living expenses, but she is willing to consider bearing her parents' medical expenses. The second sister has always been single, living alone with her daughter, and her financial situation is relatively well-off, and she is willing to listen to the decisions of other sisters.
When Mr. Yuan heard about the plight of the three sisters, he did not sympathize, but accused them of being unfilial. He questioned why the three sisters were able to afford the living expenses of their mother-in-law and father-in-law, but they did the same to their parents. Mr. Yuan stressed that he had been taking care of his father for four years and now wanted to take his mother over to support him in his old age, and that the three sisters' contribution was far from enough, and he even said that he did not agree with the small amount of money they provided, calling it "begging for food".
Mr. Yuan also mentioned that when the second sister was at his house last year, she suffered a fracture due to an accident, and the total cost was 30,000 yuan, and he took out 10,000 yuan, while the eldest sister and the younger sister could only share 10,000 yuan, thinking that they had done their best. The second sister responded that the last time her father ** had a leg, if she didn't pay the ** fee, the hospital refused to continue, causing her and other sisters to have to contribute. A clinical patient in the hospital also reminded Mr. Yuan that raising children to prevent old age is a traditional Chinese concept, and suggested that his son should be responsible for his father's ** expenses.
The old father expressed his frustration because of the difficulties of the three sisters, saying that he would no longer ** when he went home. The whole situation shows the contradictions and disagreements between family members on the issue of pension.
The second sister, Mr. Yuan, arranged for her father to live in a warehouse full of goods. Knowing Mr. Yuan's boasting, Xiaomei said bluntly: In this case, why don't you just take an extra 200 yuan? All along, his parents favored him, leaving him with the best selling spots, and also took care of his children until he was 10 years old.
The second sister accused Mr. Yuan of letting his father live in the warehouse he rented to sell goods, instead of renting a house for his father. She said that the warehouse is well-equipped but the environment is poor, and the bed where her father sleeps is an old sofa that he picked up from the road. The implication is that the father is not better cared for, and the excess money may not be spent on the father, as long as there is enough food and drink.
When Mr. Yuen heard this, he retorted loudly and indignantly, claiming that he had bought a duplex building and arranged for him to live in a warehouse because of his father's mobility difficulties. I personally accompany my father to eat three meals a day, and only at night the family goes back to sleep.
Siblings express their own opinions and hold their own opinions, leaving their parents in trouble.
Pity the hearts of parents all over the world, and the father said that he was willing to live in the warehouse, as long as the living expenses were enough. Seeing this, the host had no choice but to ask his parents sitting in the audience for advice. She asked her father if he liked living in a warehouse, and he replied "yes"; Would you like to live upstairs with your son? The father replied, "No, the floor upstairs is slippery." "Is it okay for a son to serve his father? The father replied, "Yes! ”
Despite the fact that the father had a stroke, his mind was clear and he answered only one word: "good"! This short answer contains how much bitterness and helplessness the old man has.
The host then asked the mother: How do you feel about what your children are doing? Is 1,100 yuan a month enough for living expenses?
The mother choked up and replied: I feel very uncomfortable to see them like this, 1,100 yuan is enough, I can't ask for more. None of them are easy, life is very difficult, and no matter how much they want, they can't afford it.
No matter what happens, parents think about their children first, and would rather suffer their own losses than let their children be embarrassed.
Finally, the host once again emphasized: filial piety is duty, supporting the elderly is an obligation, and everything is prosperous for family and talent. Our parents raised us through hardships without complaint. When they are old, we have an obligation to take care of them. This is the responsibility of every citizen, men and women alike.
Why do some people advocate having fewer children, just raising one? Because they are worried that they will compare with each other for property, pension and other issues when they grow up, there will be disputes, and eventually they will turn against each other. It makes it difficult for parents to distinguish between right and wrong, for them, "the palms and backs of their hands are meat".
When there are many brothers and sisters, a reasonable pension mechanism should be planned, and it is fair to share it equally.
Humans are different from animals in that we are emotionally focused beings, and family affection is crucial. When facing the issue of providing for the elderly, for families with multiple siblings, the actual financial situation of the individual should be comprehensively considered. Those siblings who are better off can take on as much responsibility as possible, while those who are less financially off can reduce the burden moderately, which can maintain the relationship between siblings and make parents feel at ease and at ease.
Reflecting on the hard work of their parents' lives, how long can they live healthy lives? While our parents are alive, we should put aside our personal interests and share some of the burdens for our parents with a filial piety, regardless of gains and losses. On the issue of pension, do not worry about it, so as not to hurt the feelings of brothers and sisters, but also hurt the hearts of parents.
There is a good saying: "Suffering is a blessing". Expressing filial piety to your parents is not only a reward for them, but also an accumulation of good fortune for yourself. Such behavior will not only serve as an example to our children, but will also make them be as filial to us in the future as we do to our parents.
Only when brothers and sisters live in harmony and fulfill filial piety together, can parents enjoy happiness in their old age. Therefore, we should cherish this family affection, let the family relationship be harmonious, and create a happy life for our parents in their old age.