As the old saying goes, "The grace of nurturing is more important than the mountain", and filial piety is regarded as a vital value in traditional Chinese culture. However, to this day, some ungrateful "white-eyed wolves" still exist in our lives.
Fang Chongcai of Guang'an City, Sichuan Province, is one of those tragic figures. Fang Chongcai, a farmer and an intellectually handicapped, once adopted an abandoned baby girl and cared for her for 23 years.
However, when her adopted daughter came of age, instead of thanking her father for his nurturing kindness, she took him to court and demanded that she disown him. So, why did Fang Chongcai adopt this baby girl?
And why would the adopted daughter make such a ruthless decision? What is the truth behind this?
In a village in Qianfeng District, Guang'an, Sichuan, a man carries a baby girl under the age of one in his arms and goes door-to-door looking for adopters. Due to family constraints, his second daughter could not be raised, so he had to be sent to the next village to find a good Samaritan.
After visiting most of the homes, the man did not receive any reply. Just when he felt desperate, he knocked on the door of Fang's house at the entrance of the village. The person who opened the door was named Fang Chongqian, and when he saw the baby girl in the man's arms, his heart was full of sympathy.
However, he already has two children and his family is poor, making it difficult to support the baby girl. Although he was well aware of the man's predicament, after discussing it with his wife, Fang Chongqian still rejected the man with some apologies.
But his kindness and compassion are deeply heartwarming.
When the man was in a depressed mood, Fang Chongqian's younger brother Fang Chongcai came out of the room. He heard the conversation between his brother and the man, and the thin and cute little baby touched the softest place in his heart.
So he straightened his chest and said to everyone, "Let me raise this child." However, Fang Chongqian immediately stopped him and said, "You can't support yourself well, how can you support your children?" ”
Due to his illness at a young age and his failure to be able to deal with it in time, Fang Chongcai has always had some problems with his intelligence. It is for this reason that although he has reached the age of 31, he is still alone, and can only live on odd jobs and his brother's help.
So, when he said he wanted ***, his brother immediately objected.
Fang Chongcai's firmness was surprising, and he assured that he would raise the child and reassure them. The child's father, impressed by his sincerity, gave the child into his hands, thanked him and left.
Although the process of adoption is simple, it is very difficult to raise. The first problem faced by the Fang family was the child's name. Because Fang Chongcai's cultural level was not high and he had some problems with his intelligence, the task of choosing a name was handed over to the eldest brother.
Fang Chongqian thought that he had always wanted to find a partner for his younger brother, and when he was old, someone would take care of him, but due to his younger brother's situation, this wish had not been realized. Now the arrival of the baby girl has made his dream come true, so he named the child "Fang Mengzhen".
Fang Chongcai's life has changed from a bachelor to a conscientious and good father, he works hard during the day, coaxes his daughter to sleep alone at night, and even sells the surplus food at home to buy glucose and milk powder for his daughter.
Although he was often ridiculed by the villagers, he behaved very attentively when it came to taking care of his daughter. He would even personally change his daughter's diaper and take a bath, which were things that older men were not very good at.
He was very concerned about his daughter's health, and once his daughter had a cold, he carried her on his back for more than ten miles and took her to the town's health center**. Under Fang Chongcai's careful care, her daughter thrived and stepped into the gate of the school, and their relationship became closer and closer.
On Fang Mengzhen's 12th birthday, she learned that she was abandoned by her parents, but this did not affect her relationship with her adoptive father Fang Chongcai. On the contrary, she felt more sorry for her adoptive father, and always shared the housework for him in her spare time.
In 2009, Fang Mengzhen was admitted to a university in Guangzhou with excellent grades, and in order to be closer to his daughter, Fang Chongcai also came to Guangzhou to work. During college, Fang Mengzhen met and fell in love with a boy from the same township, and now he is at the age of talking about marriage.
During the Spring Festival in 2013, Fang Mengzhen and her boyfriend returned to Fang's house, but Uncle Fang Chongqian didn't like him very much. However, Fang Mengzhen was blindfolded by love and didn't realize it.
In 2014, they got a marriage certificate from their families as soon as they graduated, and Fang Chongcai saw that the wood was already in the boat, so it was difficult to say anything more. After discussing it, they proposed that Fang Chongcai had raised Fang Mengzhen for 24 years, and he had paid a lot of money and labor for this.
If Fang Mengzhen gets married, Fang Chongcai will be old and have nothing to rely on, so he hopes that Fang Mengzhen can bring his adoptive father to his in-law's house to support. This is not an overstatement. It is said that "the grace of a drop of water should be reciprocated by a spring", Fang Chongcai, as an intellectually disabled person, silently raised Fang Mengzhen for so long, and when he entered his advanced age, he obtained some rewards, which is very reasonable.
Fang Mengzhen also thought so at that time, so after discussing with her husband's family, she decided to take Fang Chongcai over.
Originally, the relationship between Fang Chongcai and Mengzhen's family was quite harmonious, and in order to let his daughter live a better life, Fang Chongcai spent most of his time working outside to subsidize the family.
However, as time passed, contradictions began to emerge gradually, and even often became angry with Yumezhen because of dissatisfaction. In the face of his daughter's grievances, although Fang Chongcai, who was slurred, could not make effective help, he knew in his heart that it all came from himself.
So, he decided to pack his bags and go back to his home. Mengzhen did not stop him, but silently saw him off. However, Fang Chongcai's departure did not solve the fundamental problem, every time there was a family conflict, the mother-in-law would pull on Fang Mengzhen's adoptive father.
Finally, on the thirtieth day of the Chinese New Year's Eve, Fang Mengzhen couldn't bear it anymore and left her husband's home. But she didn't go to Fang Chongcai, but returned to her biological parents.
Mengzhen sued her father, the father-daughter relationship broke down, Fang Chongqian couldn't stand it, and decided to get Fang Chongcai, Fang Mengzhen and her husband's family together and put the problem on the table to discuss.
After negotiation, the two parties reached an agreement: Fang Chongqian paid 200 yuan per month as the living expenses of Fang Mengzhen's mother-in-law's family, and informed Fang Mengzhen's mother-in-law of Fang Chongcai's pension account password as his future pension funds.
Soon, Fang Chongcai lived with Fang Mengzhen again. However, Fang Chongqian soon discovered that more than 30,000 yuan in Fang Chongcai's pension account had been withdrawn.
This made him very surprised, because he knew that although the password was told to Fang Mengzhen's in-laws, the deposit receipt was still kept by himself, how did he get this money? After some investigation, Fang Chongqian discovered the truth: it turned out that Fang Mengzhen's father-in-law took great pains to defraud the money.
Fang Chongcai was coaxed and deceived to obtain money, and his family questioned Fang Mengzhen's in-laws, but the other party confidently claimed that the money was spent for Fang Chongcai. However, Fang Chongqian knew his younger brother very well and knew that he had no living expenses, and this money must have been embezzled by his in-laws.
In the end, the contradiction between the two families could not be resolved, and Fang Mengzhen was caught in the middle and was in an awkward situation. It stands to reason that Fang Meng should really be on her adoptive father's side, but surprisingly, she did not come back to comfort her father, but gave him a court summons.
In March 2016, Fang Mengzhen filed a lawsuit with the court, arguing that her adoption relationship with Fang Chongcai was illegal and hoped to dissolve the father-daughter relationship. Fang Chongcai felt very sad about this matter, after all, he had worked hard to raise Fang Mengzhen for many years, and he had always regarded her as the pearl in his palm.
This kind of sudden separation is unacceptable to anyone, not to mention that Fang Chongcai's spirit and intelligence have always had some problems. The court summons was even more difficult for him to bear.
Since then, he will be in a daze with his daughter's ** every day, as if he has become a little stupid. Soon, the court announced that Fang Mengzhen had won the case, and the parent-child relationship between the two parties no longer existed.
From then on, Fang Chongcai could only continue to live under the care of his brother, while Fang Mengzhen stayed at her in-law's house and never went back to visit again, as if she had never had such an adoptive father.
Such a touching family relationship, which lasted for 24 years, finally ended in a gloomy ending.
With the popularization of the mobile Internet, the speed of information transmission has taken off, and Fang Mengzhen has quickly become popular on the Internet with the image of a "white-eyed wolf". After learning about the incident, netizens expressed their opinions.
Some people say that Fang Meng is really ashamed of his father, who raised him **, is an unfilial daughter. Some say that the court should not have successfully sentenced them to dissolve the father-daughter relationship. Some people also said that Fang Mengzhen should be compensated for the lonely Fang Chongcai.
In fact, from a legal point of view, netizens' doubts may not be tenable. At the beginning of the prosecution, Fang Mengzhen put forward two reasons. One, although it is a fact that Fang Chongcai adopted her, she was indeed raised by Fang Chongcai.
However, the adoptive relationship has not been put into writing, and there is no documentary information to confirm this, so she believes that the adoptive relationship is not established. Second, judging according to Fang Chongcai's health condition, he did not meet the conditions, and the adoption was originally illegal.
However, legal grounds and moral criteria are not the only criteria for evaluation. In this incident, Fang Mengzhen's behavior made people think more deeply about filial piety and family relationships.
Does she have the right to dissolve the father-daughter relationship with Fang Chongcai? Should she be compensated? These are all worthwhile questions. In any case, we should respect the law and morality, while also understanding the complexity and diversity of human nature.
First, it has full capacity for civil conduct; Second, they are at least 35 years old and have no children; Third, if a man without a spouse adopts a woman, the age difference must be more than 40 years old.
And when Fang Chongcai adopted Fang Mengzhen in 1993, he didn't meet any of these three criteria. He is intellectually handicapped, lives under the care of his eldest brother, and is unable to carry out civil activities independently.
And he is only 31 years old, the age gap with the baby girl is less than forty years. Therefore, we can conclude that Fang Chongcai is not eligible for adoption.
Fang Chongcai's adoptive relationship was not implemented in the agreement and could not exist as a special case. With this in mind, the court's decision is based on statutes. Although the adoptive father-daughter relationship was dissolved, the court held that Fang Mengzhen had paid a lot when he was growing up.
Despite the breakdown of the relationship, Fang Mengzhen should be properly compensated. In court, Fang Chongcai was immersed in the pain of losing his daughter and did not consider compensation. But later, under the negotiation of her brother, Fang Mengzhen and her husband gave a one-time compensation of 160,000 yuan.
Although this amount cannot make up for more than 20 years of parenting, it at least provides a certain guarantee for Fang Chongcai's old age.
When the legal problem was resolved, moral condemnation became a dilemma that Fang Mengzhen had to face. In my country, there is a saying that "if you are raised before you are born, it will be difficult to return it for a hundred years", which means that her adoptive father's 24 years of careful care and selfless dedication to her are by no means easily bought out for 160,000 yuan.
Her decision to abandon her adoptive father is destined to be tormented by her conscience. And Fang Chongcai's life is also not easy, he still needs to work to make ends meet when he is over half a hundred years old, his brother is also old, he himself can't rely on them forever, and his life in his later years must be bleak.
However, Fang Chongcai did not hate his daughter's "betrayal", he liked to sit at the door of his house in his spare time, stroking a few photos with his daughter, and fell into deep contemplation.
Perhaps, for Fang Chongcai, it is enough to be able to raise a child**, he has not asked for anything in return, from this point of view, although he is not rich and intellectually sound, he is indeed a great father.