[Day 1781].There will be many accidents, and what you can do is to guard your heart
I encountered an incident a few years ago, and I can't say much about the specific experience, but in short, it was a very unexpected thing for me: all my efforts were completely denied.
To be honest, I was stunned by such a result, and I couldn't believe that it was actually done by someone I had known for many years, but it seemed to be expected, because after analyzing the way this person acted, I was so ruthless, just because the result was not as expected, I completely negated the efforts of others and did it.
In fact, the people I've been dating over the years are so good, whether it's clients or friends, they always have a relationship with each other, so much so that I naively think that the world is so good.
But the truth tells me: no, in fact, human nature can never be tested, and it is not that you think that if you give your sincerity, the other party should reciprocate - but anyone who holds such an idea is just a kind of naivety.
The formation of a person's three views is not overnight, and it also directly affects the person's future encounters, his way of doing things, and his way of life.
I can't say that I am absolutely right and righteous, and in the eyes of the other party, what I did was also wrong, and I would not satisfy him.
See, this is the bias caused by the different three views, and it is impossible to reach a common consensus, that is to say, in this matter, there is no way to even debate right and wrong, and once it is true, there is actually no result.
Aggrieved or not? I've already passed the stage where I'm embarrassed because of this "unclear debate".
I thought that my way of acting was in line with my consistent principles, and that I did not feel sorry for my conscience, let alone do anything wrong, and I could be at peace of mind - if a person has to pass the threshold of his "conscience", it is enough to be justified - I have always adhered to the principle of "no guilt in my heart, and I am at ease" in the same way inside and outside.
Of course, he also has his own principles, and judging them is also at ease—even if it seems to me to be very inexplicable, it does not prevent him from making such judgments.
The same rice and hundreds of people, that's what I'm talking about.
Depressed? There doesn't seem to be anything to be depressed aboutWhen I encounter such a thing, I immediately reflect on whether I have done anything wrong in this matter. If not, then no problem – if there is, then I have to adjust myself and correct myself to avoid making the same mistake next time.
But I also reminded myself: the next time I meet this kind of person who must be compared, I can't have deep friendships and can't work with him, because it is difficult to grasp which point touches the other party's nerves, and it leads to a situation where all previous efforts are lost, and I also suffer economic losses and emotional losses.
I don't have this shrewdness, nor do I have the ability to grasp people's hearts, it's just ordinary to associate with such people, it's too tiring, and a character like me who doesn't take everything into my heart is simply the most suitable for me.
And make a note to remind yourself.
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