On the stage of feelings, men and women have been dating for two months, but they are still on the edge of friendship, why is this? A man was confused, and when the girl asked, "It's better to be friends," he fell into anxiety. Today, through a case, I will share two key words that can make a girl let her guard down and accept your feelings.
The 33-year-old man confided in me that he and the girl had been introduced to me by family, and both parties had a clear need to get married. In the nearly two months they have been together, they have occasionally exchanged small gifts, and everything seems to be going well. However, in recent days, the boy has noticed that the girl is in a somewhat abnormal state, and yesterday she suddenly said, "We are still friends." ”
The boy is confused, he is already planning a future wedding, what should he do now? He began to worry about future travel plans, but was even more worried about losing her. Let's take a look at what the boy had to say at the time.
The boy sent a message: "Bao, why have you been talking less these days?" The girl replied with a happy expression and said, "Is this okay?" Don't you call me that? The boy was nervous and asked the girl if she had anything to say to him. The girl was silent for a long time, and finally said, "I just want to be friends with you, is that okay?" I've been thinking about it for the last few days and it feels like we're not like a couple at all, even though we're getting along, you know what I mean? ”
The boy broke down and cried when he saw me the next day. I told him not to be so pessimistic. Observing this chat, I immediately judged that the girl had a good impression of the boy, and the tone was not firm, more like a rogue performance. Through communication with boys, it was found that the reason why girls proposed to "be friends" was because she felt that getting along was too flat and lacked the feeling of being in love.
Now, we know what the girls really think, and let the guys respond: "If you think well, I respect your opinion." "Taking retreat as advance, putting the problem in the hands of the girl, so that she does not dare to make decisions easily. The girl replied that she just wanted to be friends at the moment, and the boy joked again, piercing the girl's careful thoughts, and using humor to guide the girl's emotions.
In the second stage, the man takes the lead and the relationship ushers in a new turn. The boys insisted on dominating, and the girls returned to the state of "okay". The boy calmed the girl's emotions and mentioned that the two had turned the page. The girls also began to respond, revealing their concern for the boys. Next, the boy guides the girl in the direction of love.
The girl mentioned that "I still want to have the feeling of flirting", and the boy responded with ridicule, which made the atmosphere more relaxed. The boy suggested that if you only rely on a relaxed chat atmosphere, you can only be friends. The girl expressed dissatisfaction, and the boy responded: "Are you sure?".In this way, the boy gradually leads the girl back to the track of love.
Finally, the boys share their experiences and express their attitudes towards their feelings. He pointed out that everyone treats feelings differently, some people express their feelings more openly, while others are introverted. The boy tells the girl in a light-hearted and humorous tone that she is the second type. Through this conversation, the boy regained the dominant position in the emotion, and also successfully narrowed the distance with the girl.
In the process, the boy successfully changed the girl's attitude through humor, ridicule and guidance, making her reconsider the relationship between the two. This case shows us that good use of words and emotional guidance can achieve unexpected results in the complex emotional arena.