In rural areas, there is less and less contact between relatives, and the affection between people is becoming more and more indifferent. The main reason is the widening gap between the rich and the poor. In the past, in rural life, there was a lot of movement between relatives. Whenever there is an incident, all you need to do is send a message, and relatives will actively go to help. Nowadays, many relatives go out to work and only return home at the end of the year, resulting in no opportunity to see each other throughout the year, and relatives gradually lose contact with each other.
In the past, in the countryside, there were no roads, and the main way to get to the city was by boat. Every village has a boat, and every day boats come and go on the Youshui River. The dissemination of information is very closed, and people can only exchange information by going to the city. As a result, the docks in the city became a platform for information exchange. People not only sell their produce there, but also take advantage of the opportunity to get together and interact with each other. If a relative has something to do at home, he only needs to send a message to someone else's ship, and the relative will definitely come the next day. This method of transmission is reliable, and no matter how far the road is, whether it is by mountain or water, relatives will help each other with farm work, threshing grain, and even helping to build houses.
Over time, the frequency of interacting with relatives gradually decreases. Many people go out to work and only return home for the New Year at the beginning of the year. However, it is not so much about going home for a reunion as it is about a hurry. Compared with the past, visiting relatives has become a passing scene, and many people are not willing to stay at their relatives' homes, let alone stay for one night. People no longer happily spend a night at a relative's house and enjoy the warmth of family affection as they did when they were children. Nowadays, visiting relatives only needs to prepare red envelopes, and many families with more children are more reluctant to move around because it means preparing more red envelopes.
The main reason why relatives are now interacting with each other less and less and becoming colder is the widening gap between the rich and the poor. Many people are afraid of their relatives when they have money, because they are often worried that their relatives will borrow money. If you borrow, you are worried that your relatives will not be able to pay it back, and if you don't borrow, you will feel embarrassed. As a result, many people choose to cut off contact with their relatives and become distant. This phenomenon is not uncommon. Once some people make money, they are afraid that their relatives will come to them, so they can only give up contact. Many people don't see each other a few times a year, and even if they come back for the New Year, they just leave in a hurry with a few words. In this case, the affection between each other gradually fades.
Another reason for the indifference of relatives is the snobbery and argumentative nature of rural people. Many people become snobbish, with wealthy relatives looking down on poor relatives, while poor relatives want to befriend rich relatives. Over time, the relationship between relatives gradually drifted apart. In addition, rural people generally have a low level of education and advocate outspokenness. They are not as good at tactful words as city dwellers, and often talk about other people's family affairs as hot topics. If you visit someone's house at night, you can almost expect that someone will ask you about your monthly salary, marital status, and plans to buy a house. These personal privacy questions are actually inconsequential and there is no need to ask. In contrast, city dwellers pay more attention to their own schedules, and do not care too much about other people's family affairs, let alone discuss right and wrong.
The phenomenon of indifference between relatives is thought-provoking. In modern society, the bond between relatives is closely related to family values. Problems such as the widening gap between the rich and the poor, snobbish tendencies, and the lack of a common language all contribute to the indifference of family affection to a certain extent. In order to change this phenomenon, it is necessary for us to reflect and change our behavior. We should start with ourselves, care more about our relatives, take the initiative to contact them, and establish family ties. At the same time, we should also improve the level of education and cultivate the emotional expression skills of family members to enhance mutual understanding and communication.
Family affection is the most important part of human relationships, and it is firmly rooted in our lives. However, when the connection between relatives becomes more and more cold, we need to work on retrieving this precious emotion. Whether we live in urban or rural areas, we should adhere to traditional values of kinship and find appropriate ways to maintain the bonds between relatives in modern society. Only in this way can we maintain the warmth of family affection and let fellow relatives feel love and support for each other.