The Shame of Chinese Leftover Women: A Problem That Suffocates 90 Million Single Women.
In China, marriage has been seen as one of life's most important achievements for the past few decades. For women, getting married means realizing their worth and status, while not getting married means failure and shame. However, with the development of society and the change of people's concepts, more and more women choose to be single, and they are called "leftover women".
The term itself has a pejorative connotation, meaning that women have missed the best time to get married, have not been able to find a suitable partner, and have been ostracized by society.
In Chinese culture, women are seen as the pillars of the family, while leftover women are considered to be people who are not able to take care of themselves or their families. This perception has led to discrimination and isolation of many single women in society.
However, in fact, more and more women are choosing to live a single life because they are pursuing higher education and career advancement, or because they want more freedom and independence. It's not that these women can't get married, but they choose to wait for a true love and marriage partner. They want to be able to find a real partner, not to marry for the sake of getting married.
Unfortunately, the pressure on these women has not lessened. In China, women over the age of 27 who are not married are considered "leftovers" and are excluded from society. This perception is more prevalent in rural areas, especially in rural areas, where some parents even see their daughter's marriage as their responsibility.
However, this perception is changing. More and more women are coming forward and expressing their ideas and choices. They refuse to be leftover women and stick to their beliefs and pursuits.
I have a friend named Xiaoli. She is a young professional woman who is very smart and self-reliant.
Her parents have been urging her to get married, but she has never found the right person. "I don't want to get married just because I'm married," she said. I want to find a true partner with whom I can share the joys and sorrows of life. ”
Xiaoli's parents are very anxious, they think that their daughter has passed the best time to get married, and in their opinion, their daughter will not be able to take care of herself without getting married. Xiaoli was very confused and distressed, and she didn't know how to make her parents understand her choice.
One day, Xiaoli met a boy on the Internet, his name was Li Ming. Li Ming is a very interesting person, he likes travel and photography, and he chatted with Xiaoli very closely.
They began exchanging ** numbers and later met. Xiaoli feels that Li Ming is a very good person, and their values and interests are very similar.
However, Xiaoli still didn't dare to tell her parents. She feared that they would object, thinking that the boy was not good enough or rich enough. She didn't want to give up her choice because of her parents' opposition.
In the end, Xiaoli confessed to her parents. She told them that she had met a very nice guy who was a perfect fit and hoped that her parents would support her choice. Her parents were against it at first, but Xiaoli insisted on her choice and let her parents meet Li Ming.
Li Ming is very polite and intelligent, and his parents are also attracted to his qualities. In the end, they agree to Lily's choice and help her plan a beautiful wedding.
In Xiaoli's experience, we can see that women's choice to be single is not a failure or an independent lifestyle. She found the partner she really wanted, and her parents understood her choice. This choice requires courage and strong conviction, but it also brings more freedom and opportunity to women.
We need to change our mindset and respect women's choices and rights for the Chinese shame of leftover women.