There are not a few women who forgive cheating men in marriage, women are affectionate and soft-hearted, as long as the man sincerely apologizes and promises not to commit it again in the future, he will generally not divorce.
And the woman's confusion is: he had a good attitude when he admitted his mistake and forgave him, but then found out that he cheated again, why can't he break off with his extramarital lover and hurt her again and again?
For a man, there are only 0 and countless times of cheating, even if he kneels in front of you and confesses with tears in his eyes, he just wants to "coax" you as soon as possible, so that you will no longer pursue the matter, and when you are stabilized, he will go outside to date his lover, that is his nature, and it will not change.
So why can't a man break off with a woman outside of marriage? Nothing more than these 2 reasons.
Blind derailment
In psychology, there is a type of infidelity called "blind derailment".
He doesn't have any special reason, Che's constant relationship with his lover is just because he is tired of the dull married life and doesn't know what to do, so he finds a lover to accompany him.
For men, his desire to conquer makes his heart always ready to move, some men like the new and hate the old, and some men like the new and never get tired of the old, while maintaining the superficial relationship with his wife, and on the other hand, looking for a different sense of excitement with his lover.
Men are like explorers, they always have a strong desire for unknown women, they are always driven by novelty, and their lover can bring him a sense of mystery to attract men's attention.
Escaping derailment
A man who has been married for 5 years told me the story of his cheating, and after chatting, I realized that the reason why he betrayed his family was not because he fell in love with a woman outside of marriage, but because the mental pressure was too great, and the tenderness and thoughtfulness of his lover could make him relax.
He can escape reality for a short time, not thinking about how to pay for his wife and family, not thinking about financial deprivation, and only romance and warmth.
Extramarital relationships can be an escape from the tediousness of life without promising anything to a woman outside of marriage. Who can afford to miss out on such a benefit?
To put it bluntly, a man who is greedy for extramarital affairs can't control himself and finds countless excuses to excuse himself, but he just drinks to quench his thirst.