This Chinese New Year, my cousin deeply felt the two major trends that appeared during this Spring Festival:
One is the wave of fierce marriage urging, and the other is that there are more and more cases of collapse when it comes to bride price. And it is a lot of people all over the country, both boys and girls, who are violently urged to marry. What's going on? Let's take a look with my cousin
.A 27-year-old single girl originally wanted to go home for the Spring Festival to rest and rest, but as soon as the "forced marriage conference" at home opened, the pressure rose sharply, which was simply breathless. ”
But in the end, she was forced to go on a blind date. Urging marriage, this word that makes young people's scalps numb and annoying, from the beginning of the year to the end of the year, runs throughout the year, especially during the Spring Festival, and it is also the most hated topic for young people. I don't know who gave the task, after the parents across the country reach a certain age, the unified task is to urge marriage and birth, and the words are surprisingly consistent. 
I'll complete the mission when you're married. "If you don't get married, you don't have children, and no one knows when you get old and die. "How old are you, if you don't find someone to marry, you won't be good, and you won't be able to find it when you're old." "If you don't get married and have children, you are an incomplete person, without a sense of responsibility, selfish, and if people in society think like you, society will not develop." ”…Fortunately, in the face of their parents' unified marriage urging words, young people have evolved from the previous "left ear in and right ear out" to "say a sentence and say a sentence". 
Mother: "Don't you hurry up to find a partner to marry and have children, and see what you will do when you are old in the future." Child: "I live in a nursing home when I am old." Mother: "You'll know how happy you are when you have children in the future." Child: "I've been a child for so many years, I don't know if it's useful to raise children?" This also reminded my cousin of a girl sitting on the roof of the house in Ningbo, Zhejiang Province, crying in the early morning, and having suicidal thoughts, just because she was urged to marry by her parents, she shouted that she didn't want to get married, which was really distressing. 
Moreover, more and more people are beginning to realize that this year's marriage rush is really unbelievably fierce. is not just a light reminder, but has escalated into an all-round, dead-end "forced marriage offensive": in this regard, netizens are empathetic and furious:
In addition to urging marriage, there are many people who are ready to get married to talk about the bride price during the Spring Festival, but there are also a lot of people who talk about the bride price! This hot search has exploded to the point of collapse, and directly because the bride price cannot be negotiated, he will not get married, and the relationship for many years seems to be vulnerable in front of the bride price. There is a real bride price negotiation scene taken by netizens below, which can let everyone really feel how difficult it is to negotiate the bride price......Speaking of bride price, my cousin wants to tell a story, there is a girl and her partner are working in Hangzhou, to this year's Spring Festival, the two of them plan to meet their parents after the year, officially put the marriage on the agenda, but the conflict broke out, and the bride price became the last straw. According to the local custom of the woman's family, the bride price is generally 1880,000 yuan, 2880,000 yuan, 5880,000 yuan, in the end, will be brought back to the small family for the daughter, and the girl said that according to the medium level of 2880,000 yuan just go through the motions
And the girl's family will pay several times more for the dowry, so that the boy will discuss it with his parents first, and the boy replied directly, "You don't need to discuss with your parents, they don't have money, it's better to break up, and you don't have to go to see your parents." Speaking of which, the girl feels that there is no need to insist. In retrospect, because the conditions of the girl's family are better than the boy's family, the boy often says something similar to asking the girl's family to help him, and I feel that the boy has been thinking about "empty gloves and white wolves". So, in the end, the girl also gave up. 
If she hadn't discussed the bride price, she couldn't have imagined that someone who was once so gentle and considerate could be so hideous. This can be regarded as allowing her to recognize a person and be able to stop losses in time. Bride price has been a hot topic since ancient times. This long-standing custom has become a love test that most couples must face before marriage, so much so that many people talk about etiquette. 
In the face of this test, lucky people can go all the way, but there are also many couples who lose in this test and finally part ways. As for the bride price, my cousin thinks that it should be in accordance with local customs, and it is appropriate according to the conditions of the two families, and if the bride price is for parents or siblings, then it should not be. In the final analysis, the bride price can be negotiated and exchanged, and if one party has a negative attitude at the beginning, unwilling to work hard and does not regress, then there is really no need for both parties to insist. What do you think about the bride price? Radio.
The bride price should be outlawed!
Inherited customs should be respected.
I have my opinion, see you in the comment section.
Vote. I don't know what everyone thinks? Let's take a look at what netizens think! It starts again today:Most of the people who want a high bride price have a brother or brother, while asking for a high bride price to marry a sister, while asking for a zero bride price to marry a daughter-in-law [happy] know who the money is, or the bane of patriarchy, the wives in the countryside are in the soil and rivers, I hope to get the bride price and sentence soon, and directly in one step. Rumble Father:It's better to be in Shanghai! 1. There is no custom of bride price. 2. Basically, there is no serious marriage urging. An 83-year-old female colleague in the unit, she lives a chic and free life. Is there anyone in the family urging marriage? My wife's cousin is almost forty years old, and she has no idea of falling in love and getting married, and she is happy. His mother didn't have any intention of urging...I always feel that some areas are too ignorant! Bad habits need to be changed! momo：It should be said or not, the reason for the bride price is not necessarily the concept or supply and demand, the key is the economic downturn, and the prospects for the younger generation to earn money are worrying. After marriage, life is not very confident, so you can only rely on the support of both parents at the time of marriage as the main starting capital. Therefore, most of the people who do not pay attention to the bride price are the second generation of Beijing, Shanghai, Guangzhou and Shenzhen, if the two of them earn money a year to reach their parents for a lifetime, who still cares about that bride price.