01 Be able to understand others.
We always talk about recuperation in our daily lives, but many times we don't know what self-cultivation is. In fact, we all need to have a certain moral quality in life and work, and don't always focus on our own subjective feelings.
First, are we able to understand the feelings of others?
Being able to understand others does not mean that we have to fully agree with other people's points of view or live completely dependent on them.
Understanding others is to think from someone else's point of view, and when we do something, if we have different points of view, then we should not be in a hurry to deny the other person.
Let's look at it from his point of view.
Maybe we can also gain some new insights.
It's a good relationship, and it all needs to be understood by both of us, if neither of us knows what the meaning of what we do to each other?
A lot of times our communication fails.
Understanding other people's words is a basic moral quality, but if you can think from someone else's point of view, it is a higher level of understanding.
We know that many times it is difficult for us to think from the perspective of the other person, but we do need empathy.
A good supply capacity requires us to constantly exercise, observe the mentality of others, or gain more insight into the inner world of others, which will make our relationship with each other more harmonious.
02Be tolerant of others.
In fact, in real life, few of us can say that we are completely tolerant of others.
For example, when we are talking to someone, if they don't understand or hear something, we repeat it many times.
I'm sure many of us are already on fire in our hearts.
Because we always feel as if we are being teased, and we feel that we are not cared for by others.
Why don't the other party pay attention to what we say?
In fact, this will only destroy our own emotions, so we might as well start by changing ourselves.
If others don't hear it, we can come closer and talk to them, but if they don't want to listen, then why should we say it? And many times we also encounter the situation of being wronged by others, and when we are wronged by others, the sense of grievance and anger in our hearts is understandable.
A lot of times we talk hysterically about ourselves, but most of the time it doesn't work.
It's better to be tolerant of others, just let others say it, but we know that this is not the case, so that's fine. Aren't we doing things just to make ourselves feel at ease?
03 Do things without publicity.
We will find that there are actually some such people around us, and they have always been very flamboyant in doing things.
As long as you have a little achievement, you will post it everywhere or tell it everywhere.
Or when they make some big decisions, they always tell others how great their decisions are.
When you have a certain amount of wealth accumulation, you always show off your wealth everywhere.
But many times this kind of person is actually more annoying.
In many cases, others have more than you do, but they don't want to say it, in fact, you are like a clown in front of them.
Sometimes other people are going through some sad and sad moments, and you are showing off how happy you are, and you can easily make other people's hearts very unbalanced.
If we have achieved something, we can applaud ourselves or wait for others to congratulate us instead of showing it in front of them.
04Emotional stability.
In this age of anxiety, in this fast-paced age, how many of us can say that we are emotionally stable?
And our parents may also be emotionally unstable, and many times some of their ideas or ways of doing things will also affect us.
We start to feel uneasy because of a little thing, and we get angry because of a little mistake made by someone else.
Our hearts are really prone to fluctuations.
But how do we calm our minds after the turmoil?
So we can't reach the state where we can look down on everything, but we also have to try to control our emotions. Because emotions belong to us, and we are the only ones who can control them.
Don't think about who will comfort you, and don't think about who will comfort you, in fact, temper can make you emotionally stable, and only we are alone.
In many cases, if our emotions come up, no matter what the occasion, we actually show something.
But a lot of times no one cares, and even if you show your emotions, you're just embarrassing yourself.
Instead of letting others comfort you or care about the change in your expression, it is better to comfort yourself more.