Hello, my name is Zhu Dabao!
Why do NPD narcissists indulge in demons? We can talk about it from the perspective of brain chemistry, I'm sure you've all heard of dopamine, right? Let's talk about the difference between the pathways by which normal people produce dopamine and NPD, so as to get a glimpse of how low-level and out of control the motivation of NPD narcissists is.
However, the brain is very delicate and complex, and there is not only dopamine as a chemical, but here is just a little bit of dopamine to share.
Let's start with when the brain normally produces dopamine, which allows us to experience happiness as a reward.
Dopamine is produced in many ways, such as getting enough sleep, eating, especially healthy and nutritious things, exercising, winning and complimenting, loving and being loved, intimate activities between couples, enjoying beautiful landscapes and art.
Usually normal people get a lot of and stable dopamine is to love and be loved, it can be family, friendship or love, we will have a lot of good interactions from long-term and good interpersonal relationships, get a lot of dopamine, and in this way to get dopamine is extremely cost-effective.
Because when a good relationship is established, we only need to be a normal person, don't deliberately die, and we will naturally invest time, energy and attention, and get positive feedback from loving and being loved, and the good relationship will be maintained.
The difference between the NPD narcissist is that he does not have the empathy of a normal human. Modern brain science research has also found that the prefrontal gray matter layer of NPD narcissists is much thinner than that of normal people, so they lack the ability to actively love and feel loved, and their emotions are extremely unstable, which leads to their inability to establish long-term good interpersonal relationships, and lack an important way to obtain a large and stable amount of dopamine, which makes NPD narcissists in a state of dopamine deficiency for a long time, and their emotions are easy to get out of control, enter a vicious circle of lack and uncontrol, and are extremely negative and dark.
In order to obtain dopamine, they can only seek other pathways. Because they don't have empathy, they won't have a love for nature's beautiful art, so they can't get dopamine by enjoying natural scenery and art, they will only pretend to be obedient and elegant.
Since it is mentioned that pretending to be coerced, pretending to be coerced is the way of NPD. As I mentioned earlier, winning and compliments produce dopamine, and on the path to compliment, normal people will accept compliments for their real achievements, and because they are not deficient in dopamine, they will not be greedy for more compliments and dopamine.
Getting dopamine from other people's compliments is the icing on the cake type of dopamine compared to getting a lot and stable amount of dopamine from family, friends, and couples, and it is certainly better if there is one, but it is not crazy.
NPD narcissists have a very limited way to produce dopamine, and dopamine is extremely scarce, so they will work like crazy on the way to get dopamine, like a hungry ghost crazy to grab food, and can suck a few puffs.
NPD narcissists will of course work like crazy on the few dopamine pathways to get praise, which is one of the few dopamine pathways for them, and unlike normal people who accept praise because of their real achievements, NPD narcissists will use false achievements to cheat praise in order to get extra dopamine, which is the proverbial pretence, or the hidden narcissist will sell misery, seduce others for comfort and support, which is actually an indirect way to get praise.
Some very ordinary things have to be taken out to show off, trying to get praise, it is a starving ghost behavior, if it is possible to ask for an extra bite of food, they will go crazy to grab it, for example, 2000 yuan refrigerator to show off, dozens of yuan pots and pans also to show off, as if no one else has seen the world, naïve and embarrassing.
Of course, maybe praise is not necessarily easy, because if you pretend to be too much, everyone will see through it, and it will become an anti-dog, and it is difficult for powerful people to be confused by their pretending, which forces NPD narcissists to seek other ways to obtain dopamine.
Another common way is to achieve victories and achievements, although it is very difficult to achieve really grand victories and achievements, such as winning the Nobel Prize. Game npd narcissists are extremely lacking in dopamine, and dopamine is also a brain chemical stimulus for human beings to make long-term efforts, so npd narcissists are reluctant to invest in long-term activities that require effort.
So what is the way to win quickly and cheaply? For example, when working on deception, following crooked ways, and in addition, by suppressing and torturing others, he realizes his illusion that he is a superior and a manipulator, and achieves a sense of victory.
For example, the NPD narcissist makes you cry by bullying you, and he thinks that he has won you, he has won, so that he can get some dopamine.
But this dopamine secretion is not very large, and it will not last long, because the core shame of the NPD narcissist will come over quickly, and after a so-called small victory, he will wonder why he has not become the number one in the world, and he feels that he deserves to be the number one in the world. He worked hard to make you cry, but why didn't he make the richest man in the world cry too? Even if he defeats the richest man in the world, he will wonder why he is not the first beauty in the universe.
He hopes he can take down everyone in the world in all directions, but is it possible? This sense of disparity will make the npd narcissist's just victory quickly disappear, but more anxious, he can only be a demon again, trying to get a little refreshment and dopamine again, he will either continue to toss you, or go to the whole others or go directly to the Internet to bully others, and this also explains why npd narcissists like to be demons in the festive celebrations, destroying everyone's festive and peaceful atmosphere.
Normal people feel happy in the festival celebration because they interact happily with family and friends, and a lot of dopamine is produced in the emotional resonance, while NPD narcissists have no empathy, and they also hate the whole world and everyone, so they can't produce dopamine in normal interactions with people. The NPD narcissist may be marginalized by everyone because of the lack of genuine interaction, and he may also find himself abnormal, which triggers core shame.
In this way, he is easily narcissistic and angry, and in order to alleviate the damage of narcissism and quickly gain dopamine, he will choose to make trouble and hurt others, so that he can gain a sense of victory in defeating others.
Another quick way to get a sense of victory is gambling and playing games. The mechanism of gambling and games is designed to quickly deliver small win rewards in the process of playing, stimulating the production of dopamine, which dopamine secretion is like a big steamed bun for NPD narcissists dopamine starving ghosts, so they will be more likely to indulge in gambling and playing games than normal people. There are also some of the few ways that can make NPD narcissists produce dopa, as well as bad habits such as overeating, alcohol and drugs, which can quickly trick the body into producing dopamine, but will destroy the body in the long run.
Another addictive sex behavior can also be mentioned, the addiction of NPD narcissist XOXO. Normal couples will secrete a lot of dopamine when they are in XOXO, because in addition to physical intimacy, there is also the flirting between you and me, feeling love and being loved, and producing a large amount of dopamine secreted by love stimulation in addition to physical contact, but NPD narcissists have no feelings, they only have the primitive feeling of animal nature when they rub their bodies, so they don't have a little beauty when they are XOXO, more like a piece of meat rubbing, maybe it can only last for 7 seconds. However, for NPD narcissists, this is already a very rare way to get dopamine.
I saw in the comment section before that someone said that they couldn't do without NPD couples because he was very exuberant in that and he found him very attractive. Hehe, I advise you to eat something good! NPD narcissist only has the coolness of physical friction, he only pays attention to the coolness of his own body, he doesn't care about your physical and emotional feelings, if you really love to play, then I'm afraid that the NPD narcissist is not as fun as those plastic toys in Yiwu, and you still have to find a normal person when you talk about love.
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