Many people's married life is a chicken feather. Quarrels often break out over a little thing.
The advantages of falling in love seem to disappear inexplicably, and the eyes are full of the shortcomings of the lover.
After the halo fades, can you accept your lover for what he really is? How do you get along with each other after the halo fades?
It is said that it is easy to fall in love, but it is difficult to get along. Learn these three things and your married life will change dramatically.
1. Seek common ground while reserving differences
You have to understand that you are different.
Your family of origin is different;
You have different personalities;
You have different ways of thinking;
Your consumption outlook and values are different.
Only by respecting differences will there be fewer quarrels.
Second, seek more inward
You have to understand that you can't change him.
Don't try to change him, you must know that his parents have not been able to change for so many years, how can they change just because you have changed in this short period of time!
People cannot be changed, they can only be influenced.
Keep the focus on yourself.
The more you want to change him, the more conflicts you will have, the quarrels will follow, and the bigger the cracks in your marriage.
3. Speak well
In "Love's Study Trip", Wu Qianyu's communication with Shi Boxiong is worth learning.
They never speak emotionally, they always communicate in a problem-solving way.
When there is a conflict, never speak with emotion.
You can state the facts, make demands, show attitudes.
For example: "I did something wrong, but you can't talk to me like that, I'm going to be sad, I wish we could be quiet first, okay?" ”
Only by learning to speak well and communicate smoothly can you reduce a lot of unnecessary quarrels.
In married life, there will always be all kinds of problems and contradictions, but as long as we make a little change, married life will become happier and more satisfying.
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