Emotional intelligence not only has an impact on a child's future success or failure, but also affects his academic performance, because children with high emotional intelligence know how to handle the interpersonal relationships around them, and have a strong sense of responsibility and self-motivation.
Studies have found that people who are emotionally stable, kind, and willing to work with others are the most popular. It is also the easiest to have harmonious love, friendship and family affection.
And those who are short-tempered have a hard time making friends and having good relationships.
Children with high emotional intelligence are naturally popular, try these methods to cultivate children's high emotional intelligence
I have to say that the way of speaking is the key to reflecting the level of emotional intelligence, and it is also the most obvious, so when parents communicate with their children, they use more positive language, no matter what problems they face (such as children's poor grades, etc.), use more positive attitudes and language to look at, so that children will also develop positive thinking, you know, complaining is a manifestation of low emotional intelligence.
Positive psychology tells us that if we see the positive side of everything, we will not be pessimistic and negative, we will have confidence, and it will be easy to achieve success. On the contrary, if everything is perfect, it will feel that everything will be flawed, unsatisfactory, unhappy, easily frustrated, easy to give up on goals and depressed.
For example, if you don't do well in exams, if you look at it from a positive point of view, you can keep improving your grades by identifying your weak points. In a negative light, it can lead to discouragement and loss of confidence.
When you have negative emotions, don't give up on yourself, know how to motivate and self-affirm, such as failing in exams, don't always feel that you are a bad student, forget if you don't do well in the exam, and you won't continue to work hard.
Self-denial will be a negative state.
At this time, parents should guide their children to learn self-affirmation, and children can always find excellent points.
Children are 3-6 years old, which is a stage of transition from "self-centered" to "socialized". So at this stage, the child will have a lot of "selfish" actions.
However, this is not conducive to the improvement of children's emotional intelligence. Parents must be in charge.
However, parents should not be too harsh on their children, and strictly require their children to be generous, not jealous, and considerate of themselves.
Instead, it is necessary to guide slowly, such as sharing this matter, so that parents can let their children feel the happiness of "sharing" first. When your child takes the initiative to share something with him, praise his or her behavior in a timely manner.
When children feel the joy of "sharing", they will gradually become less averse to "sharing".
However, parents need to pay extra attention to the fact that each child has different needs for socialization, which does not mean that children are "outgoing" and "cheerful" to socialize.
Introverts have the same ability to be happy and survive.
Children's thinking is wild, and if there is no specific goal, it is easy to blindly follow the trend, lack their own judgment, and do things without their own principles and independent thinking.
Therefore, parents should ask their children more "what are your ideas", so that children can clarify their ideas and goals.
To improve children's emotional intelligence, parents can also use some theoretical books to let children learn from experience to cultivate knowledge of emotional intelligence, and children's progress will be accelerated.
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There are 5 volumes in this set:
"High Emotional Intelligence: A Life Pattern Book for Children":
Teach childrenLearn to recognize and manage your emotions, properlyDealing with interpersonal relationships, ownedSelf-control, frustration resistance, affinityTeach childrenCommunicate, listen, and encourageto raise childrenSelf-disciplined, friendly, collaborativecapacity.
"High Contrarian Quotient: A Life Achievement Book for Children":
Teach children to be self-disciplined, brave, strong, not afraid of difficulties, not to be all-encompassing, not to spoil, not to connive, and to cultivate good children who are self-reliant, strong and brave;
"Good Character: A Book of Life and Destiny for Children":
Teach children to develop a good character of cheerfulness, integrity, kindness, and focus, do not yell or scream, discipline positively, and cultivate children's good character with love;
"Good Attitude: A Book of Life Happiness for Children":
Cultivate children's positive, optimistic, grateful and other attitudes, guide, affirm and comfort children, and cultivate optimistic, confident and motivated children.
"Good Habits: A Book for the Future of Life for Children":
Teach children to develop good habits such as planning, time management, self-reliance, and innovation, not pampering, punishing, or letting children go, and cultivating good habits of self-discipline, self-improvement, and self-awareness.
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