I am 49 years old, and I spent 8,000 yuan for my mother's family in two months, and my husband said that even if I spent 80,000 yuan, it would be normal
In our family, my husband doesn't care about finances.
Every month, he transferred his salary to my account on time and left about 1,000 yuan of pocket money for his own cigarettes and breakfast.
A few days ago, my husband asked me, "Have you saved your salary for these two months?" ”
I replied that not yet, because I was too busy during this time, and I would save it when I had time.
My husband nodded and didn't ask any more questions, because he trusted me very much.
However, what he didn't know was that he had transferred a part of the salary to me, and I had already taken out a part of it in the past two months and spent 8,000 yuan at my mother's house.
Why spend $8,000? Because I have too many things going on at home during this time, I will explain in detail the reasons for spending money below, and I hope you can give advice on whether you should spend this money or not.
First of all, let me introduce the basic situation of my family. There are my father, my mother, my sister, me and my younger brother, and we are a family of five.
In recent years, there have been quite a few things going on in my family. Four years ago, my dad was diagnosed with bowel cancer, had two major surgeries, received two chemotherapy treatments and could not continue, and the next year had another surgery for bowel cancer**. He has been living in the countryside, growing vegetables, raising chickens, and taking care of his mother, who was partially paralyzed after a stroke.
During the years when my parents were sick, my mother suffered from diabetes, high blood pressure, and suffered a stroke due to cerebral infarction. After a stroke, the left hand and foot lose mobility. After exercising in the hospital** and at home, she is able to walk around with a cane, but the walking distance is limited and she cannot do heavy work.
My dad is a retired coal mine worker, he is 80 years old this year, and his retirement salary is more than 3,150 yuan per month.
My mom is a farmer and originally had social security, but no other income.
Normally, the two old people live in the countryside, my father grows some vegetables and raises some chickens, and the meat-based vegetables such as rice, oil, meat, and fish are basically purchased by the three of us from the city.
Due to the poor health of our parents, the three of us basically take turns to go back to the countryside once a week.
My dad celebrated his 80th birthday at the end of September last year, and my sister picked him up to go to the city for his birthday. In the city, my sister arranged a three-table banquet for him, and relatives and friends came to celebrate.
In our case, the birthday of a man is generally yes, while a woman's birthday is.
When my dad was 79 years old last year, my brother picked him up for his birthday, and he also held a three-table banquet. When the old people are seventy or eighty years old, they will gather together to celebrate, whether they are happy or full.
I gave my dad a big red envelope last year, so this year I only wrapped a red envelope of 2,000 yuan.
Not long after my dad's birthday, my mom was hospitalized with a fall and injured her femur, and since my sister was close to them, she took her to the city hospital.
When my sister was in my mother's hospital, since she couldn't move, my sister hired an experienced nurse to take care of her.
When I went to visit my mom, I gave 2,000 yuan. I said that if the medical expenses were not enough, I agreed to share, but then my dad provided enough for the expenses, and we didn't have to share.
Then, the Mid-Autumn Festival arrived, and my mother had not yet been discharged from the hospital, so we first went to the hospital to see her, gave her 500 yuan, and then went back to the countryside to accompany my dad for the Mid-Autumn Festival, bought some gifts, and gave him 500 yuan for the holiday.
At that time, my parents' family did not have much rice oil, so I spent 200 yuan to buy a bag of 50 catties of rice and a barrel of 5 liters of rapeseed oil online, which is the only platform in the countryside that provides door-to-door delivery services.
My mom stayed at my sister's house after she was discharged from the hospital, and since she still had to be re-examined in a month, my sister hired a nanny not far from my hometown to take care of my mom.
My mother was not in good health, and she couldn't move because she broke her femur in a fall. If I go back to the countryside and don't hire a nanny, my dad won't be able to handle it.
Among the three of us, the younger brother has not yet retired, I have found a job outside after retiring, and the elder sister has retired, but due to the poor health of my brother-in-law and the need for someone to accompany us, we can only hire a nanny.
The three siblings each pay 1,000 yuan per month for the nanny, and we hire a nanny in the countryside to take care of the elderly who can take care of themselves, and the monthly cost is about 2,500 yuan. For those like my mom who need more care, the cost is about 3,000 yuan. On holidays, it is good for children to give a red envelope and give some holiday gifts.
Last week, I took a break, followed my mother's advice, and bought various ingredients such as meat, fish, pork ribs, pig's feet, wontons, and steamed buns, which cost nearly 1,000 yuan at a time.
The money that my husband transferred to me has not been saved, and I spent it leisurely, and I inadvertently spent 8,000 yuan, but frankly, I feel that this is a necessary expense, and I did not spend it indiscriminately.
My daughter found a job, which was not very stable, but it was enough to support herself, and she no longer asked us for money.
The income of the two of us is very stressful because we have to support six elderly people, so my husband's money is usually saved for a fixed time, and the money I earn is used to support the family's living expenses.
Last night, I decided to confess the real reason why I didn't save money, and told my husband that I hadn't saved so much money in the past two months, because the money he gave me was spent 8,000 yuan by me.
My husband was taken aback when he heard this, and asked me dissatisfiedly: "You only have a salary of 2,300 yuan a month, how can you spend 8,000 yuan?" I didn't see you buy anything expensive? ”
I calculated my mother's expenses for him in detail: my mother's birthday cost 1,000 yuan, my father's birthday cost 2,000 yuan, my mother's hospitalization cost 2,000 yuan, the nanny fee was 1,000 yuan, the Mid-Autumn Festival expenses were 1,000 yuan, and last week I went back to buy things and spent 1,000 yuan, a total of 8,000 yuan. I don't think I'm spending money too much.
My husband smiled and said, "You don't usually spend money indiscriminately, it's true that there are too many things in the past two months, but these expenses are really necessary." The old man only has one year a year, and even if he spends 80,000 yuan when he has something, it is not too much. I understand. ”
Then he said, "When I pay my salary on the 20th of this month, you can save it again." We are all 50 years old, old and young, and our physical condition is not very good, so it is better to save more money and not panic when there is something. ”
I spent 8,000 yuan in my mother's house in the past two months, in fact, my sister and my brother spent more than me, especially my sister, during my mother's hospitalization, she sent three meals a day, and lived in her house for a month after being discharged.
At the same time, I would also like to thank my husband, although he is not good at expressing feelings and can't speak sweet words, he is full of trust and tolerance for me, and he is also very filial to the elderly, which makes our marriage more durable. I don't know if everyone here, if your other half spent 8,000 yuan for her parents in two months, would you be able to accept it?
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