"Love is not a heart beating another heart, but a spark of two hearts hitting together. Leo Tolstoy.In the TV series "Yanxi Raiders", the heroine Wei Yingluo passed all the way in the court, not only resolving various crises with her ingenuity, but also winning the emperor's deep favor with her unique strategy of "wanting to capture the old and indulge". She is not blindly pandering, but sometimes alienated, sometimes close, so that the emperor is unpredictable about her, but he can't stop it.
This is the charm of "wanting to catch and indulge". In real life, when getting along with men, women can easily capture men's hearts by learning these 3 "desire to capture the old and indulge in the arts".
Distance produces beauty", this famous saying tells us that the right distance and mystery can increase the concentration of emotions. In the relationship between men and women, women should learn to maintain a certain sense of independence and mystery, and not easily give themselves up.
Don't stick to each other every day, but have your own life circle and hobbies. At the right time, give the man some surprise and freshness and let him feel your unique charm.
For example, you can suddenly bring up a new topic or schedule a new event when you are dating him so that he can feel your changes and surprises. At the same time, learn to keep your distance moderately, don't rely too much on him, and give him some free space. Such a you will make him unpredictable and full of curiosity, so that he will cherish the time with you even more.
In the relationship between men and women, many women tend to meet their demands unconditionally in order to please men. However, this will only make men feel that you are easy to control and will not cherish you. On the contrary, the strategy of "retreating to advance" can make men realize your value and respect you more.
For example, when a man makes some excessive demands or behaves disrespectfully towards you, you have to be brave enough to express your dissatisfaction and rejection. At the same time, you should also learn to decline his invitations or gifts modestly in your relationship, so that he knows that you are not a casual person. Such a you will make him aware of your bottom line and principles, so as to respect and cherish you more.
Although the strategy of "wanting to capture and indulge" includes two opposite aspects, the ultimate goal is to make the relationship between men and women more harmonious and satisfying. Therefore, when using the "Desire to Capture the Past", women should also learn to respond positively to men's emotions and contributions.
For example, when a man does something romantic for you, you want to express your touching and gratitude in time. At the same time, learn to give positive feedback and support when he needs to talk or comfort. Such a you will make him feel your warmth and thoughtfulness, so that he is more willing to pay for you and cherish the feelings between you.
When using the "Desire to Capture the Past", women should remember one principle: sincerity and respect. No matter what strategy you take, be sincere about your relationship with men and yourself.
At the same time, it is also necessary to respect the man's feelings and needs and not hurt him for his own benefit. Only in this way can you truly capture a man's heart and build a beautiful relationship.
Conclusion: When dealing with men, "Desire to Escape" is a very effective strategy. Through techniques such as maintaining a sense of mystery, retreating, and responding positively, women are able to capture men's hearts with ease.
However, it should be noted that the "Desire to Capture the Past" is only a means, not an end. The ultimate goal is to establish a healthy, equal, and fulfilling relationship.
Therefore, when using this strategy, women should always maintain a sincere, respectful, and understanding attitude towards themselves and each other. Only in this way can you truly find your own happiness.