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Whenever the Chinese New Year is approaching, there will be quarrels between husband and wife over whether to take the children to "grandma's house" or "grandma's house" for the New Year, the father tends to take the child back to the grandmother's house, and the mother tends to take the child back to the grandmother's house.
No one between the husband and wife can convince anyone, and they will even quarrel because of this, so they will simply discuss the child to decide, so that not only the husband and wife have an explanation, but also an explanation to the elderly on both sidesAt least no matter which home you go back to for the New Year, you have to give an explanation to the other family, after all, which old man doesn't look forward to the New Year's Day when the child comes home?
Although the child is still young, the decision made by the child, at least in the eyes of the elderly, is "a scale", one is the grandparents and the other is the grandparents, the children tend to go to whose house for the New Year, but also to see who is good to the child, right?
Colleague Xiao Wang and her husband are both "only children" in the family, and the two of them have settled in big cities, far away from their hometownsI have been married for six or seven years, and I have lived in my mother's house for almost four or five years.
Xiao Wang's husband has some opinions on this, and has proposed several times that the child's grandparents miss the child, and this year he will take the child back to his hometown to get close to the elderly, Xiao Wang is not willing to quarrel with her husband because of this problem, so he simply proposed to let the child choose to go to "grandma's house" or "grandma's house".
In order to make his son firm in the idea of going to his grandmother's house, Xiao Wang's husband instilled the idea of "grandma's good" in his children a few years agoBut when the child was really asked whose house to go to for the New Year, he replied, "Go to grandma's house!" ”
In this regard, Xiao Wang's husband was not only very disappointed, but also very incomprehensible, and immediately asked the child why? The child's answer was also very direct"Because grandma is good to me, didn't I grow up in grandma's house? I definitely want to go back to my grandmother's house! ”
First, who is close to the child, who takes care of the child more, the child is naturally close to whom
Children are the most pure, in their eyes, good is good, like is like, who is good to them who accompanies them the longest, who is closest to them, naturally children prefer to be with whom.
Nowadays, many children have grown up in their grandmother's house since they were young, are familiar with the environment of their grandmother's home, are obsessed with the smell of fireworks in the kitchen of their grandmother's house, and are willing to go to their grandmother's house during holidaysThere is not only delicious food but also the pampering of the elderly, so one of the important criteria that affects the status of children is "companionship".
On the contrary, if the child is taken care of by the grandmother since he was a child, and the grandmother loves the child and grandchildren very much, then the child will definitely prefer to go to the grandmother's house during the New Year, which is the same reason, so the scale in the child's heart is the most direct and fair.
Second, grandma and grandma's house, which side is more fun and which side is more free
Children are playful after all, and the New Year is a festive day, and children are naturally willing to go if they are fun. It's like I have a colleague's child who grew up in the city and was always with his grandparents.
But during the winter vacation, the children are willing to go to the countryside to play at their grandparents' house, because there are endless fields there, you can set off firecrackers casually, and you can have snowball fights with your friendsThere is no nagging from parents and grandparents all day long, there is just the pampering and unrestrained environment of grandparents.
Therefore, sometimes children prefer to go to the elderly for the New Year, and it may also be that the children are not disciplined by the elderly, and they can be more relaxed and have fun, which is a very important reason.
Third, where the elderly have more money, buy more toys, and are more favored, where are the children willing to go for the New Year
Nowadays, children are more "precocious" in their thinking, and many family relationship contradictions can also be seen, such as I have a classmate who has a daughter in the grandson's family, and there is an elder brother on the grandson who gave birth to a son.
During the Chinese New Year, the red envelopes given by the elderly are different, grandparents send 1,000 yuan of New Year's money to their grandchildren, and only 500 yuan to their granddaughtersAll kinds of differential treatment can make children feel the gap in their hearts.
Therefore, the daughter of the little grandson likes to go to her grandfather's house for the New Year, in the grandmother's house she is not only the only child, grandma is also very generous to herself, every time the New Year's red envelope is a big red envelope, delicious and fun are their own, so the New Year's child is more inclined to go back to grandma's house for the New Year.
Which side of the elderly is the child willing to get close to, it depends on the way the child and the elderly get along, we do adults and then interfere with the fact that the impact is not great, the child himself slowly grows up, and begins to understand the truth, the child will have the answer in his heart.
However, no matter which side of the old man's home is returned to for the New Year, the lost old man must take care of his emotions, although this is a difficult choiceBut we also need to understand the feelings of the elderly who want their children to return home for the New Year.
If you can, take turns to go back to your hometown, this year's child's grandparents' house, next year's children's grandparents' house, try to have a bowl of water even, 10,000 families may have 10,000 choices, but at the end of the year, what parents are most looking forward to is that their children go home and have a happy New Year? Therefore, husband and wife should quarrel less and be more tolerant, humble each other, and try to negotiate an answer that is acceptable to everyone.
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