At Shanghai No. 2 Middle School, a young female chemistry teacher who was only 25 years old had a violent emotional dispute with the 16-year-old student she taught. In the interaction between the two sides, the teacher's style and morality disappeared, and those vague chat records shocked everyone, and the content was unsightly.
Female teachers have polluted the image of the entire teacher by themselves, and many people in society have questioned the sacred duty of education.
What shocked the world even more was that this incident was publicly exposed on the Internet by the newly married husband of the female teacher. It can be seen that this man seems to be a big husband, but in fact, he was completely greened, and the one who cuckolded him turned out to be his wife's student. A middle school student who should call him an uncle according to his seniority.
The governess's husband was already angry and started going crazy. In the case of completely losing his mind, this cuckold man finally chose to disclose his wife on the Internet.
At present, this teacher Zhang has been suspended from his post by the Education Bureau and his school and his teaching qualification has been revoked, and is under in-depth investigation. As a top student majoring in teacher training, she should be very aware that this kind of behavior can lead to serious consequences.
So, why did she, the female teacher Zhang, behave like this? Thrill-seeking? Or is it out of curiosity? Or is it because you feel empty inside? Or is it really tempted by that student?
When people condemn female teachers for cheating on their students, I think of the dialogue between Zhuangzi and Huizi in the pre-Qin period.
In "Zhuangzi and Huizi Swim on the Haoliang", Zhuangzi put forward the view that "Zi is not a fish, and the joy of knowing fish" emphasizes the gap between subjectivity and objectivity.
Through this sentence, he expresses the philosophical idea that people cannot fully understand the feelings and experiences of others, because everyone's feelings and experiences are subjective and cannot be thoroughly understood by others.
Through this metaphor, Zhuangzi tells us that people often understand the feelings and happiness of others from their own perspective, but in fact cannot truly understand the inner world of others.
Teacher Zhang, a married woman, cheated on Chang Moumou, a 16-year-old male student, and she cheated on not only him, but also Ding Moumou, who had left school. As a teacher who cheats on his student, he is willing to go on a date like a couple, to open a house, to drill a grove. Mr. Zhang's ugly behavior is nothing more than the following three psychological motivations:
01. First of all, loneliness. In the fast-paced modern life, many people lack emotional communication in their marriages due to the pressures of work and life. This loneliness drives some women to look outside of marriage for excitement and fulfillment as a way to fill the emptiness within.
Ms. Zhang, a woman, went from university to graduate school, and then to work, and became a chemistry teacher in Shanghai No. 2 Middle School, and she is still the best in teaching. Teacher Zhang alreadyI have a good job in school, a satisfactory job, and a good salary.
The emptiness of doing nothing made her feel lonelyI want to find something for myself to do. The reason why she got the moon first near the water, she thought of "finding something to do" in her students.
02. Secondly, fear psychology. As a wife, Ms. Zhang is insecure in her marriage and worries about being betrayed by her partner (mentioned below, her husband is a mother).
With this concern, she chose to have a relationship with a male student in search of a sense of security and belonging. (In the future, if Mr. Zhang's husband betrayed her, she would have taken a step earlier, and once she was dumped by her husband, she would have already chosen to take over.)
03. Again, enjoy the psychology. Teacher Zhang believes that having a married relationship with his male student can find a sense of freshness and exciting psychological satisfaction.
Teacher Zhang's cheating on a 16-year-old boy can arouse her inner reminiscence of her lost youth, and she can also make up for her in the period of youth, and she was bent on building her own aura of being a scholar, and successfully entered such a higher education institution while ignoring the girlhood of the flower season and chasing her own Prince Charming.
Today's teacher Zhang's derailment has a sense of happiness of making up for youth and enjoying the love of men and women.
04, Mr. Zhang's husband is a BMW man, and she feels that there is no place for her in such a marriage and family!
According to his best friend, Mr. Zhang's husband, Mr. Li, is a mother's boy, and no matter what kind of family conflicts occur on weekdays, he always stands on his mother's side without principle.
She wanted to be supported and respected in her marriage, but she never felt the warmth.
Teacher Zhang does not have much autonomy in such a marriage, and in the face of an unhappy married life, she wants to choose divorce.
Driven by the above many thrill-seeking psychology, she tries to have an emotional experience with a man outside of marriage to satisfy her inner desires.
But she is afraid of cheating on those men who have families, and the yellow-faced women in those men's families may be tigresses and she can't afford to mess with them.
So,Teacher Zhang chooses his own students to start with (there is no yellow-faced woman behind the students, and he is their teacher, so he can condescend to control theseLittle boys. Teacher Zhang fell in love with him and gave it to herIt brings a different kind of emotional experience and adds to the fun of life. She has a feeling of falling in love, a feeling of being addicted to love pleasure.
What I want to remind everyone is that Zifei fish is safe and knows the joy of fish. If you are not Teacher Zhang, how can you understand her feeling of "can't stop" in it.
Teacher Zhang finallyBecause of the momentary **, it is easy to give up your family and marriageFall in love
Zhuangzi used the phrase "Zi Fei Yu An Zhi Yu Joy of Fish" to remind us to respect the uniqueness of others, not to impose our own thoughts and feelings on others, and to keep an open mind and respect the feelings and choices of others.
However, it does not affect us from an ethical point of view, to the woman Teacher Zhang cheated on the 16-year-old boy, and said: Phew!