Men from Mars, Women from Venus" reveals a theme:
Men and women are inherently different in their thinking, and they often look at problems very differently.
For example, when a woman encounters an annoyance, her outpouring is more emotional, and if someone can accompany her, it is the most anticipated result in her heart.
But for men, when they encounter troubles, they think more about how to solve them rationally, and they don't talk to people too much.
This is especially true when it comes to relationships.
It's just a sentence, but the interpretation of men and women is completely different.
If each other can't accurately understand each other's intentions, then the result of "chicken and duck talking" will be formed, so that the communication between the two people will become worse and worse, and in the end, it will not make the relationship closer and closer, but will be counterproductive.
One of the most important scenarios is the key conversation when they say goodbye to each other after chatting on WeChat.
For example, when a woman says "next time", a stupid man says "yes", and smart men will do the same.
To be honest, whenever a woman says "next time", she actually wants to continue chatting with you, which is a hint.
But if the man replies directly and says "yes", in fact, giving the woman means refusing, indicating that he is not interested in continuing the conversation.
In fact, the man just replied casually, and he didn't think that there was anything else when he got to the woman.
Once aware of this, smart men never say the word "good", but will reply directly: when you're done, we'll talk.
The meaning of this sentence directly to the woman is: I love to talk to you, if you are busy right now it doesn't matter, when you have time we will continue to talk.
This kind of answer has the advantage that there is a relationship between each other in terms of speaking, which can make the relationship between the two people go further and lay the groundwork for the next pleasant chat.
It is also important to note that the average man replies like this, which will make the woman feel that he is polite and make a good impression on himself.
A man can wait for a while, he can ask the woman if he is busy, and let him understand your true feelings through warm care.
If you can leave suspense when chatting, then it will make the other party look forward to chatting with a man even more, which is a hundred times better than answering "good" directly.
Women prefer humorous men to their appearances, especially when chatting.
If the woman directly says that the next time they chat, the man still wants each other to continue chatting, he needs to leave a suspense for the other party, which will make the woman feel more interesting to chat with the other party, and will look forward to chatting with the other party.
When it comes to the next chat, the man can share with the woman an interesting thing he has seen in his life, or an interesting story he has seen, so that the woman can feel the most interesting side of himself.
Once a man shows his humorous side, he can often quickly get closer to each other, so that two people can become talkative, and they can reveal their true feelings in their hearts and make each other closer.
The next time they chat, a man can tell a woman that he has a lot of interesting things to say, and he can tell her about them slowly in the years that followed, so that the benefits of saying this will make the woman look forward to chatting with each other very much, and be more willing to learn about each other's past experiences.
When a woman tells a man to talk next time, it is not actually a refusal, but more of an expression of looking forward to chatting, but because she is introverted, she will not directly invite a man to come to her.
Since you can see that a woman doesn't hate herself, and she is looking forward to continuing to talk with herself, it is better to take the initiative to chat with each other face-to-face.
The effect of face-to-face chat is many times better than communication on WeChat, after all, when chatting on WeChat, each other only through text or voice, and can not accurately judge the expression and attitude of the other party when he says a word.
From a psychological point of view, when two people can chat face-to-face, they can further shorten the psychological distance between each other, especially if they can see each other's appearance clearly, and they can also see the expression on each other's faces in every word they say.
The two people seem to be just talking, but in fact, they also integrate body language and expression language, which can make the two people talk more and more in a short period of time.
When a man proposes to take the initiative to find the other party, if the woman does not object and accurately states her time, then it is more confirmed that she has a good impression of the man.
Men can learn more about some of women's preferences through their friends or each other's circle of friends, and when they meet, they can find common ground in chatting with each other, and reduce some awkward conversations.
If the woman does not give a specific time, the man should not continue to ask, but respect the woman's choice, appear to be a gentleman, and will also leave an unforgettable good impression on the other party.
If you take a closer look, you will find that any of the above three ways of answering are more effective than directly answering "good", that is, you can continue to talk to the other person.
The main reason behind this is that men and women think that they are not consistent in their thinking, maybe they think it is just a casual statement, but in the eyes of others, they may not think like this, and it is not conducive to continuing to talk to each other.
Chatting with a woman can't just be extended rationally and logically, but more importantly, it is more about speaking with empathy, so that the other party can perceive that you understand what she is talking about, and better understand her true thoughts in her heart.
Only such a chat method can make it possible for each other to have further contact with each other, and it can make the relationship between two people closer and closer.
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