In many cases, the biggest contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law comes from the disagreement of the three views! When it comes to marriage, it is extremely lucky to be able to meet a good mother-in-law, but it is impossible to meet it.
If you are lucky, you must love your mother-in-law well and be kind to her! Because a good mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationship determines the stability of your marriage.
There is a 90% chance that there will be a lot of conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, even if there is no conflict in the early stage of marriage, there will be certain conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law after giving birth, especially in parenting. Because of her mother-in-law's sense of boundaries, her mother-in-law's strength, her mother-in-law's concept of parenting, and her mother-in-law's possessiveness, etc., her marriage has become anxious.
In fact, the culprit of the contradiction is still because of the problem of three views, because of factors such as the age of life, education level, cultural background, living environment, etc., all of which make the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law very different, and the way and method of dealing with things will be very different.
Mother-in-law will have a sense of no boundaries many times, thinking that you are here to rob her son and grandson with her, and there is that feeling of insecurity. Especially if the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law live together, it will be easier to have negative emotions, and it will also magnify some trivial things in life.
As a daughter-in-law, as a wife, what you have to do is to be rational and not emotional. For example, if your mother-in-law complains about you behind your back, you can't just make a big noise and intensify the contradictions, but you should solve the contradictions between each other and make the problems big and small, small and nothing. After all, you also want your family to live in harmony and hope that your marriage is happy.
As women in the new era, instead of spending our time on trivial things such as arguing with our mother-in-law, we should spend this wasted time on improving our careers, cognition, children's education and other meaningful things. Just like Jia Ling's movie "Hot and Spicy Soup", loving yourself is the beginning of the ultimate romance. The contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is just one of many contradictions, don't take it too seriously, don't consume yourself, get out of this emotional circle, you will find that it is really not a thing! February** Dynamic Incentive Program