Approaching the Spring Festival, young people of marriageable age are facing the problem of urging marriage again. Recently, a mother-daughter story that happened in Jiangsu has attracted widespread attention from the society.
Ms. Zhao, 59, has been busy with her daughter's marriage in her 30s since she retired, but she has not made progress.
I feel inferior and live worse than (others)." The long-term anxiety and loss, coupled with the constant quarrels and cold wars with her daughter, put Ms. Zhao under great psychological pressure.
Her mood gradually went down, she began to feel inferior and blamed herself, and even washed her face with tears all day long, so she suffered from depression.
When modern life collides with traditional social ideas, Ms. Zhao's behavior of urging her daughter to marry is not only a personal family problem, but also a manifestation of social pressure.
Rent or buy? Exam or entrepreneurship? Celibate or married?
Different ideas will create many contradictions. Middle-aged and elderly people are prone to emotional twists and turns when facing the problem of their children, especially when their children are still unmarried.
At this time, we should seek a balance in it to avoid emotional and psychological difficulties in middle-aged and elderly people.
How to alleviate depression in middle-aged and elderly people?
1.Adjust your mood
Communicate more with parents, avoid letting parents fall into a negative thinking cycle, and encourage middle-aged and elderly parents to see other good and successful things in their children's lives, not just the level of marriage.
2.Pay attention to your physical health
Middle-aged and elderly people will lose confidence and fun in many things in life because of age, and various physical and mental functions will decline, and there will be many restrictions on doing things.
And maintaining good physical health is essential for emotional adjustment. Moderate exercise, a sensible diet, and adequate sleep help maintain physical and mental balance.
3.Enhance social activities
When people reach the stage of middle and old age, after leaving the job, the circle of communication becomes narrower, interpersonal interaction is reduced, and there is a lack of emotional support, which can easily lead to low mood and psychological emptiness.
Middle-aged and elderly people can help alleviate loneliness and depression by participating in social activities and expanding their social circles.
Young people can consider helping their parents find new meaning and hobbies in life, as well as engaging in fun activities together to help parents shift focus and relieve emotional stress.
4.Family communication
Nowadays, young people are often busy with work, and many times they will ignore the lives of middle-aged and elderly people, and they will not be able to communicate with their families, and they will feel lonely and lonely in their hearts.
Family members should establish open communication channels to provide more support and companionship for middle-aged and elderly people, and chat with them more, so that middle-aged and elderly parents can express their emotions and relieve their inner loneliness.
It can also let middle-aged and elderly people understand the thoughts of young people and understand the difficulties of young people in modern society through communication.
5.Psychological counseling
If emotional problems are severe, it is wise to seek professional counselling and support. Professional psychologists can provide effective psychological counseling and assistance.
Middle-aged and elderly people may face emotional stress and depression when facing their children's marital problems.
PassedAdjust your mood positivelyPay attention to your physical healthEnhance social activitiesFamily communicationandPsychological counselingMiddle-aged and older people can better cope with this dilemma.
In the face of life's challenges, mutual understanding and mutual respect between family members are often required, which is conducive to building healthier and more harmonious family relationships.