I have always admired Li Jian, who is like a living "knowledge base of action". I adore him, not because of his handsomeness, humor, quickness, and erudition, but because he is true to his words.
In reality, even various celebrities in ancient and modern times, Chinese and foreign, who can really "match their words with deeds" are extremely rare. This is also why Li Jian's words are more revealing than many books.
Unfortunately, when I was young, I didn't understand or even take a lot of what he said, until I went through a lot of things and looked back and found that what he said was so reasonable.
Therefore, I have selected what Li Jian said and shared it with you. Many people suddenly realized these words after the divorce.
Once, I said, 'It would be nice if I could exchange my time for money.' I remember that at that time, I played the piano with Lu Gengxu, and I dreamed that one day I would have the money to buy clothes in Xiushui, go to Xinjiekou to buy turtlenecks, leather boots, and CD players.
These are my little dreams, and although they may seem insignificant, they bring me a lot of joy. In retrospect, these dreams may seem a bit silly, but at the time I was serious.
As I gradually realized these dreams, my life became richer and more fulfilling. There are little dreams that, when they come true, are life's gifts.
These gifts of life are more important than those unattainable ideals. ”
Only self-entertainment is the true meaning of life. Most people get little pleasure out of their work, and the real joy comes from the little things in life, such as playing football, making sheets, making tea, etc.
Today's young people face more serious challenges, so it is more important to pay attention to the present life and find the joy in it. "
Happiness between husband and wife is not only the accumulation of money and material things, but more importantly, the good times they experience together. Couples who are often quarrelsome are often busy with their own affairs and ignore each other's existence.
In fact, couples should take time out to do small things together, even if these things may seem "out of tune", but they can enhance your relationship and make your relationship stronger.
Back home, sharing a bed with different quilts and back-to-back is not an ideal state of life, and it will make your relationship more and more distant. Therefore, whether the other person likes to do the same thing with you or not, you should support the other person in pursuing their own interests.
Work is important, but life should also be colorful. If married life becomes monotonous and boring, then the marriage is in danger of breaking down. Therefore, it is very important for husband and wife to operate together and accompany each other.
Marriage can have a huge impact on people, a good marriage can make people feel like a tiger is powerful, and a bad marriage can make people worse. Many well-known singers and actors have stalled in their careers, often closely related to their partners.
Two people actually grow together and influence each other. While I'm not sure if a good marriage can really make people stronger, it's an indisputable fact that bad marriages make things worse. "
To add insult to injury"This word means that a bad marriage makes a bad person worse. Whether you want to admit it or not, if your marriage is very bad, it essentially has a lot to do with you.
Divorced people often complain that they saw the wrong person in the first place, but their situation did not get better after the divorce. Therefore, I think it is better for people who are not in a good mental state, financially well, or mentally immature to get married.
For those who are already married, if they feel depressed and painful in their marriage and cannot change it for a long time, then it is better to divorce as soon as possible. Although it is tragic to make matters worse, what is even worse is that it has been exacerbated for a long time and eventually becomes a piece of ice.
Love is a beautiful dream for young people, and the combination of handsome men and beautiful women is always eye-catching. However, when we appreciate the sweetness of love, have we ever thought about how to manage and face each other's changes in the long life after love, especially in the face of life changes, such as getting older, appearance is no longer attractive to each other, and even more cruel is the distress caused by illness?
This is a test of love, and it takes us a lifetime to complete. Li Jian uses his real life as an endorsement, and his married life can be seen in his wife, Meng Xiaobei's Weibo, that the couple is practicing what he calls "self-pleasure" and "finding fun in life".
Most of us feel resentful and angry when faced with a small flaw or illness in our significant other. So, how to love someone for a long time, how to tolerate a person for a long time?
While we all know the need to cherish and be inclusive, it is difficult to do so. Many people after a divorce say that they will cherish each other if they have the opportunity – however, the truth is that even if they have the opportunity, they may not really be able to cherish it, because cherishing requires not only heart, but also skill.
So, how do you cherish it? For example, like Li Jian and his wife Meng Xiaobei, they often enjoy life together, drink tea together, plant flowers together, read books together, and by doing more small things together, and finding happiness in small things together, you are naturally reluctant to be angry with your partner.
To cherish is to feel the bits and pieces of life together, and to taste those small and beautiful things and moments together.
If you really want a long-lasting love, then it needs to be a family relationship, a friendship. Li Jian was deeply touched by this, he said: "Many people don't understand what family affection is, and they don't feel the power of friendship.
However, if you look at the divorced people, how many of them are because of the gossip, vision, and attitude of family members and friends, plus the fanning of friends and girlfriends, which finally led to the breakdown of the marriage?
Only by truly understanding and cherishing each other, and treating each other as relatives and friends, can this relationship last for a long time. Therefore, when we treat love, we must communicate honestly, listen patiently, and treat each other sincerely as we treat family and friendship.