Husband and wife go back to their respective homes for the New Year, do you agree?
The Chinese New Year, which should be a day of family joy and reunion, has become a tangled problem for some couples. Especially when both parties are only children and face the question of "whose house to go back to for the New Year", it is even more of a headache. In recent years, the phenomenon of "couples returning to their respective homes for the New Year" has gradually increased, but is this practice good or not? As a counselor, I would like to talk to you about this topic.
Let me tell you a story first. There is a young couple, Xiao Yang and Xiao Li, they are both only children. In the first few years of marriage, they went back to the man's house for the New Year in accordance with traditional customs. But as time went by, Xiao Li wanted to go back to his home more and more for the New Year and accompany his parents. Although Xiao Yang understands his wife's thoughts, he also feels that his parents need to be accompanied. So, they were caught in a dilemma.
After some discussion, they decided to try the "go back to their own home" way of celebrating the New Year. At first, they all thought it was a good way to accompany their parents and avoid unnecessary quarrels. But gradually, problems began to emerge. They found that although they were by their parents' side, they were always worried about each other in their hearts, worried about whether the other party was doing well and unhappy. Moreover, this way of spending the New Year apart also makes them lack common memories and experiences, and their feelings seem to have become a little estranged.
So, they decided to give up the way of "going back to their own homes" and return to the track of celebrating the New Year together. They choose to take turns to go to each other's homes for the New Year, so that they can not only take into account the feelings and needs of both parties, but also enhance each other's feelings. Moreover, they will also arrange some common activities and travel plans during the Chinese New Year to make the Chinese New Year more fun and meaningful.
In fact, there is no absolute good or bad difference between "husband and wife going back to their respective homes for the New Year", the key is whether it is suitable for your actual situation and emotional needs. If you feel that this will make you happier and more satisfied with each other, then give it a try. But if you find that this way makes you feel lonely and alienated, then you need to adjust and change in time.
As a counselor, I would like to tell you that no matter which way you choose to celebrate the New Year, the most important thing is to maintain communication and understanding. Husbands and wives should be honest about their thoughts and feelings, and discuss and decide on plans for the New Year together. At the same time, we must also learn to empathize and understand the difficulties and needs of the other party. Only in this way can your relationship be more stable and happy.
So, do you agree with "husband and wife go back to their respective homes for the New Year"? There is no standard answer to this question, only your own answer. As long as you can find a way to celebrate the New Year that makes each other happy and satisfied, that's the best choice.