I have found that many people have made little progress and achievements in the following two or three decades, even until retirement, except for the growth and progress in the first few years. If there were, it was just more sleek, more sophisticated, and less about nothing. They only relied on the three punches and two kicks they mastered after their initial work, and they broke through their "rivers and lakes".
Sometimes I think that it is too hasty, too simple, and too regrettable to spend twenty or thirty years like this. Life is short, you must always make some achievements and make some contributions, so as not to live in vain. This requires constant effort, growing every day, and being the best version of yourself. Of course, there are many tricks to grow, but the trick of "reflection" is very effective.
Zeng Tzu, a student of Confucius, said: "I am a day and three times and I am self-conscious: I am not loyal to others? Making friends and not believing them? Are you used to it? This means: I ask myself many times a day: Check whether I am doing my best for others? Are you being honest with your friends? Do you review your teacher's assignments regularly? The ancients were still like this, and we in the information age and the intelligent age have no reason not to ask ourselves questions and take the initiative to reflect.
Some people have done a sample survey of "what do you think is the best way to do post-employment training", and many people have chosen the training lecture method. However, what is puzzling is that, on the one hand, most people pin their hopes on the improvement of professional skills in the training lectures of experts and scholars, but do not put the theoretical methods they have learned into practice; On the other hand, most of them have a very weak sense of reflection and rarely take the initiative to make rational reflection and dissection of their work. In this way, there is a huge gap and desert in the growth zone, so many people either go with the flow, or go in circles, or are confused and tired, and naturally there will be no growth and progress.
Li Xiao said: "Reflecting on the so-called 'three daily self-reflections' is not a habit that only saints should have—this is almost the most efficient means of deliberately training metacognitive abilities. So, this should be something that everyone has to do every day. ”
If a person does not know how to reflect, and is only satisfied with gaining experience without deep reflection on experience, then even if he has twenty or thirty years of work experience, it may only be twenty or thirty repetitions of a year's work; A person, if he is not good at reflecting on problems or obstacles in work or management, will naturally not have to worry about it, but it is likely to transfer those hazards that should have been repaired, improved or improved in time to his work, colleagues or customers.
So how to reflect? According to Li Xiaolai, it is nothing more than spending about ten minutes a day to reflect on your own thinking and thinking results, and ponder whether your ideas are logically fallacious? Wonder where your ideas come from? Why did you follow that line of thought? Are there any other possible outcomes for thinking? What are the factors that affect you? Think about whether those influencing factors have a foundation and whether they make sense?
There is a saying in Zen Buddhism: "Borrowed fire does not illuminate one's own heart." "Reflection is to ignite the fire of one's own soul and thought, and it is a cheap investment in growth. Anyone who is good understands and will use this trick.
If you get it, then use it quickly.