When you are still in your mother's belly, soaked in amniotic fluid, close your eyes, only the sound of your mother's heartbeat, the sound of amniotic fluid flowing, very boring; When you are finally born, you can't even open your eyes except crying and screaming for milk, so it's boring; When you can open your eyes and see the world, but you can't get up and touch it, it's boring......And so on, every stage has its own "boredom".
Nowadays, many parents hope that their children should do meaningful things at all times, and they hate or even prevent their children from doing the so-called "idle" boring things in the eyes of adults, and may invisibly miss a lot of learning opportunities.
However, Sandy Mann, a senior lecturer in psychology at the University of Lancashire in the United Kingdom and author of the book "The Science of Boredom", pointed out that a certain amount of boring time is not a bad thing for children, and can stimulate imagination and latent creativity, which is good for developing future life skills.
One piece of advice she gives is: don't be afraid of boredom and let it come into your life and that of your child.
From a psychological point of view: boredom is the lack of stimulation in our consciousness, which makes our emotions in a state of "low arousal". In other words, if you want to find something that interests you but you can't get it, you will get frustrated and bored.
As at the beginning of this article, we can experience boredom one after another at the beginning of our lives, but it is in this constant boredom that we continue to stimulate creativity and grow step by step.
The whole learning process is not like a straight line without ups and downs, just like the clouds and sunshines, the tide rises and falls. Boredom is the trough of growing up, give children enough "boring" time, and encourage them to find interesting things on their own, so as to get rid of boredom and move to new heights.
When you think that your child is bored, in fact, this state has potential benefits for your child's development, and the key is to deal with it properly.
According to Sandy, the main benefit of boredom is that it stimulates creativity. Give your child space for their brains to run wild, fantasize, and daydream. Let them figure it out on their own, do it themselves, and solve the problem on their own. Let them start to take risks and stimulate creative thinking, all of which will help them in the future.
If they can get rid of boredom on their own and master the tricks, they will also have the ability to cope with difficulties when they become adults and enter society.
This is not only good for your child, but also for your parents, because you don't have to worry about your child doing nothing, and you can use this time to do what you want to do.
It is recommended that parents give their children some time for boredom, so that children can learn how to cope with boredom on their own and find ways to get rid of boredom, so that their creativity will be stimulated.
Scrap items in the home: Tell your child what kind of crafts you can make with your creativity and imagination.
Play outside: Observe what they are interested in and ask relevant questions to see how the children respond.
Invent the game: Guide and assist children to invent games, build a fantasy world, and integrate with children.
Explore natureThe clouds in the sky, the stars at night, the flowers in spring, the insects in summer, and everything that can be seen in nature are all objects that can be studied together.
To embrace boredom with open arms, we parents must lead by example. If your child sees that you can turn boredom into creativity, they will also be able to learn to deal with boredom and be able to truly embrace and use it.