With the progress and changes of society, some ancient customs and habits have gradually faded in people's daily life. Among them, a phenomenon known as "sub-relatives" has attracted widespread attention. In some places, when one of the parents dies, siblings follow established rules to separate relatives, such as the eldest daughter and the eldest son, and the second to keep in touch with the second child, each maintaining their own relationship network. When the old people pass away one after another, the same is true between cousins.
There are many opinions about the origin of this custom, and there is no definite answer. This phenomenon has undoubtedly caused some people to wonder: does this practice invisibly divide family affection in two, and make the already weak relationship more estranged?
"Dividing relatives" does not mean breaking off relatives, but refers to separating families to eat. In some places, such as Henan, the phenomenon of dividing relatives is not common. Henan people expressed surprise at this, saying that they had never heard of the bad habit of sharing their parents to provide for the elderly. This means that the phenomenon of kinship may vary depending on geographical, cultural, and other factors.
There is also an opinion that all customs are formed in a specific social environment. Just like the gangsters in the Northeast, separating relatives may also be a choice that has to be made due to certain historical and social conditions. This custom may have originated from the evolution of the ancient family system, as well as disputes between family members over property, inheritance, etc. Therefore, although the way family affection is understood and maintained in modern society has changed considerably, this traditional practice is still preserved in some places.
It is worth mentioning that the separation of relatives does not mean that the movement between family members is completely interrupted. In some areas, although family members follow established rules for separating relatives, they still keep in touch, and those who are on good terms may even partner or take turns entertaining. This practice respects traditional customs and maintains the kinship between family members.
Of course, for some, the phenomenon of kinship may seem too unfamiliar. As some people say, "The tree has big branches, and the family has big branches." Dividing relatives is just one manifestation of the development of the family. We don't need to be too puzzled by this, but we should respect the customs and habits of various places, and understand the thoughts and painful struggles of the ancients over the years.
It is important to note that even in areas where the phenomenon of kinship is more common, there are families who choose not to be bound by tradition. For example, some families maintain close ties while their parents are alive and are not restricted by the custom of separation. This shows that in modern society, people's understanding and maintenance of family affection has changed a lot.
As a traditional custom, the phenomenon of kinship division not only has its rationality, but also faces the challenges of modern social changes. We should respect the traditional focus on the emotional needs of family members, and seek a more harmonious and effective way to maintain family relationships.