For most men, masculinity is actually a "power without power", and they do not actually hold power. They still need to be selected, domesticated, and enslaved in the market. And in the family, this domestication and enslavement is even more severe. Because from a male perspective, they naturally have more "power" in the family. Much of this power is underpinned by the power of social expectations, the so-called social morality, and the resort to violence if necessary.
However, men do not really become a "person" in this power structure, not a well-rounded person in the true sense of the word. He was bound by a lot of shackles and transformed himself into a "male". Or to put it another way, why do men today still feel pain in the family? Tobacco, alcohol, and so many other things that shouldn't be labeled, why are they always inseparable from men? Men naturally like to smoke? Or is it a natural fond of alcohol? If the so-called male power is really a power for men, then what is it that still oppresses them?
But this anxiety of men is naturally masked when they meet women. In the construction of male power, whether men really have power or not, it naturally forms an invisible oppression and exploitation of women. This oppression and exploitation does not require anything to be actually done, or even to be recognized and touched. The man's capital power and social status no longer matter, he is there, and he can naturally exploit your gender value.
This power is illusory, because men cannot effectively oppress women with high social status and capital, and they cannot transcend the material power that these women possess. But this power is so real that upper-class women are still mentally exploited by men. This exploitation transcends class, state, and capital, and becomes an "objective fact" that is taken for granted. A method of spiritual victory in the true sense of the word, a constant deception of the upper class of men against other men.
As a result, in this deception, men feel empowered, and therefore tend to look hostile to "feminism". They don't really get anything out of male power, but they feel like they get everything.
It is a well-known fact that under the patriarchal power structure, men form oppression of women. And this has become the legitimacy of the continuous development of women's rights. Oppression and resistance, the scales of justice seem to be naturally biased in favor of women. However, what is confusing is who gives men the power of gender? At a time when feminism was gaining momentum, wars between men and women, which had been silent for thousands of years, finally broke out. Who is really being held hostage in this war? And how are those "givers" invisible? Why do givers give men these powers? Who will ultimately benefit from this power inequality?
In the context of patriarchy, men naturally take on more responsibilities and obligations, and take pride in them, or society makes them have to be proud of them. In fact, this condition is not uncommon in women either. Sexual attraction, fertility, and even self-objectification are considered to be a pattern of "women are women" behaviors, and they are proud of it, or society makes them proud of it. From this point of view, there is no difference in the essence between the "glory" of men and women, and both are aimed at asserting their so-called established roles in society.
In my opinion, the biological gap between men and women, especially the different division of labor that gives birth to life, led to the final decision of the superior to be the "spokesperson of power" by men. While the social expectations of men and women are different, some of these social obligations are the same. For example, to give birth to offspring. However, in the face of these social obligations, it is clear that women suffer more than they suffer. And in order for women to be willingly "sacrificed", it is necessary to establish an unshakable authority in front of them - the male phantom. This apparition is false, but again it demands that women remain as they are at all times, and warns - "Big Brother is watching you". The will of the superior is continuously conveyed to women through the "male phantom", and the behavior of women is socially domesticated. And men don't need to have a "male phantom" to domesticate him, because the identity of the "spokesperson of power" can make them more deeply involved.
The relationship between oppression and oppression between men and women is nothing more than an ethereal phantom. And when the women begin to wake up, the men are still asleep, trying to maintain this illusion. Perhaps, they have not yet awakened, and their awakening is so sluggish. Perhaps, they feel that the world will not be better, so that it is the best, especially for them. But they will never become power itself, but can only be constructed as a male phantom, to be a "spokesperson for power". They do not hold power, but power uses them to express its will.
Before communism, the capitalists always felt that the world would not be better, and that it would be for the best, especially for them. However, what they do not realize is that the capitalist is not a "person" in the true sense of the word, but only a personification of capital. The characteristics of the capitalist as a human being must give way to the desire for the multiplication of capital, and the subjectivity and possibility of human beings are missing. And the proletariat often awakens so early, because oppression hurts so much. In the process of capital multiplication, the proletariat pays much greater losses than the bourgeoisie. The domination of the bourgeoisie over the proletariat is even more terrible than the domination of women by men, a domination of material forces.
In general, the world could be better, so that it is not the best.