There is a lot of misinformation, disinformation, and grandstanding ignorance that makes communication difficult.
Never waste your time on someone who misunderstands you.
In front of a misguided audience, respond not to the misguided, but to those who want to hear the right and open-minded audience.
Don't be afraid to make points that you think are important. Your audience won't remember what you say 100 percent, so make sure you emphasize and repeat the most important points.
Be open to criticism, but understand that criticism is part of it.
Chew the minced meat and throw away the bones. If it's all bones, throw them all away.
People only listen when they're ready to listen, not before.
Maybe you're not ready to listen to an idea that seems obvious to you, or even imminent.
Let people take it on their own time. Being aggressive will only alienate them, don't preach.
Don't waste your time with people who want to argue. Look for people who are already open to new things.
If an open-minded person isn't ready to listen to your point of view, perhaps because your point of view is too radical for them to accept yet, or if they need more time to provide enough background information for them to understand your argument, then your point of view will not be heard by them at all. Even if they weren't"Committed to misunderstanding you"。
The second rule, towards"Reasonable people"State your own opinion, even if you imagine one in a hostile group"Reasonable people"It's also very far-fetched, and it's much more useful than trying to dispel their misunderstandings.
If you always try to explain yourself in terms and frames of reference of the misguided, you will be in trouble.
Start from scratch and provide facts and evidence to support your argument rather than trying to refute someone else's argument.
Start with the assumption that we are all doing our best, and that those who spread misinformation and disinformation, who do believe what they say, are being led astray by others.
It would be wise to start with genuine curiosity and understand why someone would believe something that is clearly incorrect, rather than from a defensive or hostile point of view.
The third rule, people only listen to you after you've said it several times, and that's amazing. How receptive people are to new information that is based on facts, even if it doesn't match their worldview.
The fourth rule is, don't get too attached to our own beliefs, which some would say are just opinions.
If you equate an attack on your beliefs with an attack on you personally, then there will definitely be a bad ending.
Anger and hostility are almost always masks of fear. If someone is afraid of the information, ideas, or opinions you provide, it's all their own problem and none of your business.
We may never know how our calm, well-reasoned, intentional arguments can affect the emotions of others, so that later, something else will push them over"Tipping point"。Therefore, if they are willing to listen, we should do our best to steer them in the right direction.
Try to use genuine curiosity to understand why others hold beliefs and opinions that seem misguided or unfounded.
Understand that we are all doing our best to understand the world.
Don't waste time talking to people who don't want to listen.
When talking to a misguided audience, reframe it: Speak to those who want to hear new information, ideas, or perspectives, rather than responding directly to false or misinformation.
Don't be afraid to make points that you think are important. Your audience won't remember what you've said 100 percent, so make sure to emphasize and repeat the most important points.
Be open to criticism, but don't target individuals, and dismiss criticism if it's malicious, ineffective, or manipulative.