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Children are the expectation of parents, and parents have put in a lot of efforts for the development of their children. However, in the adult age of a child, parents who expect a reward are often disappointed because their child is struggling at the bottom. The phenomenon known as the "new type of unfilial piety" is gradually emerging, and children often face heavy financial pressures in order to survive and thrive, while parents' expectations remain unchanged. This article will delve into this phenomenon from different perspectives, and analyze the reasons behind it and the solution path.
As children grow up to be independents, they will inevitably face a variety of real-world pressures and challenges. Especially in the job market, college students face fierce competition and a difficult employment environment. Many families with modest economic conditions are often unable to provide adequate support and resources for their children when they are looking for jobs. Therefore, children often need to start from the bottom and work hard.
However, parents often have different expectations of their children's contributions. They want their children to succeed quickly and get on a smooth trajectory. When children struggle at the bottom, neither salary nor social status can meet their parents' expectations, which makes parents more and more disappointed and anxious.
In addition, parents' expectations of their children are also influenced by society and relatives and friends. The standard of success for children in society is generally very high, and parents often feel inferior and shameless because of their children's unsatisfactory performance. Comparisons and comparisons between relatives and friends also further exacerbated the parents' disappointment. In this case, parents sometimes transfer their dissatisfaction and pressure to their children, bringing them a greater psychological burden.
While the children are struggling at the bottom, the disappointment of their parents gradually accumulates, forming a "new type of unfilial piety".
1. The job market is highly competitive
Nowadays, the employment situation of college students is becoming increasingly severe. According to statistics, more than 11 million college graduates flood into the job market every year, and the employment opportunities that suit them are far from enough. As employers demand more and more quality and work experience from their employees, many graduates often struggle to find satisfying jobs.
2. Heavy economic pressure
Most families have limited financial means and are unable to provide adequate financial support for their children. Graduates who work and live in big cities are often faced with various expenses such as rent, living expenses, and loan repayment. However, recent graduates do not have enough savings and financial means to cope with these pressures. They often need to work hard from the bottom of the first-tier cities.
3. Communication barriers to family expectations
Parents expect unlimited from their children, and their children face their own dilemmas and pressures. Due to poor communication and mutual understanding, parents and children often have misunderstandings and complaints. Parents expect their children to reciprocate, and children want support and understanding from their parents. The two sides are often bogged down in finger-pointing and disputes, unable to truly resolve the issue.
1. Enhance communication and understanding
Parents should actively listen to their children and understand their predicaments and stresses. At the same time, children should also take the initiative to communicate their own situation and communicate their thoughts and confusions with their parents. The understanding and support of both parties is the key to solving the problem.
2. Parents help their children face pressure rationally
Parents should help their children to look at employment and development rationally, and clarify their goals and directions. Don't just focus on external success and material rewards, but focus on your children's inner needs and growth.
3. Change the concept of family expectations
Parents should realize that their children's efforts are not worthless and that they deserve to be respected and understood, whether successful or not. Parents can shift their expectations of their children, focus on their efforts and progress, and encourage them to achieve in their fields.
The emergence of a new type of "unfilial piety" phenomenon not only reflects the pressure and challenges of contemporary society, but also reflects the shortcomings of family education and the room for improvement. Parents should be aware of their children's efforts and efforts, understand their plight and pressure, and give them the necessary support and encouragement. Children should face up to reality, work hard to overcome difficulties, and work hard for their own growth and development. Only with the understanding and support of both parties can we jointly get out of the dilemma of "new unfilial piety" and establish a harmonious family relationship.
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