I once heard a rather interesting parable, the four major nosy things in life are helping rotten mud, carving rotten wood, turning salted fish, and scalding pigs.
As the saying goes, it's not about yourself, don't speculate, don't say anything. Meddling too much in other people's affairs is often a thankless task and may even lead to unnecessary trouble. Mr. Ji Xianlin once said:"As a man, you don't meddle in your own affairs, but take care of yourself. ”
The highest level of self-discipline is to be less nosy, ignore idlers, and pay more attention to yourself.
Regardless of the nossinessThere is a wise saying:"Wholeheartedly to a person, either in exchange for a lifelong confidant, or for a lifetime of lessons. ”
Regardless of the nossy is not indifferent and ruthless,It's about not meddling in other people's affairs easily, and don't interfere in other people's decisions casually. Everyone has their own lives and choices, and we have no right to judge or interfere. Always meddling in other people's affairs will not only bring unnecessary trouble to yourself, but also make others feel dissatisfied and disgusted, that is, to do bad things with good intentions. Know that what we think is not necessarily what the other person thinks. The sincerity, warmth, and kindness we think we are may be just an annoyance or even a hurt in the eyes of the other person.
When a person lowers his profile, pleases others, caters to the other party, and even unconditionally pours out his heart and lungs to a person, he often can't win the favor and liking of the other party. That's because we can't grasp a degree, and we can't grasp our own state of mindAnd then always after having a good impression of a person, it is easy to be wishful thinking and meddling. So most of the time, it is the zealous who pays people wrongly, and the zealous heart is used by others and calculated. After a busy job, the one who ends up losing is the one who likes to meddle in things.
Always maintain a clear attitude towards life, and be clear about when to reach out to others and when to keep your distance. In the end, we can win the respect of others, and we can also win the respect and appreciation of ourselves.
Ignore idlers
Really smart people, not only don't meddle in things,will also take the initiative to stay away from idlers. Because they know that instead of spending their time on the wrong people, they should focus on self-improvement.
Stupid people will waste their precious time and energy on trivial people and things, and eventually let their lives be a mess.
Smart people will only focus on polishing themselves, because only when they continue to improve themselves can they make their next life path more and more hopeful and full of sunshine.
I like a sentence from "Seeds":"Everybody has their own notes to play, and you can't mix them with anybody else's, but you can play your part well. ”
Instead of focusing on others, focus on yourself.
The best self-discipline of a person is to ignore idle things and ignore idle people
Looking at the world from a higher dimension, we understand that everyone has their own life and their own life trajectory, and not all fish live in the same sea. Not casually interfering in the cause and effect of others, and not interfering in the fate of others, is to express trust and respect for others.
Be kind-hearted, truly live a sober life, know which ones should be helped, and which ones should not be helped, and grasp a sense of boundary and sense of proportion between people, which is to fulfill others and fulfill yourself.
Don't forget to improve yourself, take the present step by step, live each day well, prepare for our future, and truly create the life you want to live, even the life you dream of.