Why can some extramarital affairs last for a long time, while some extramarital affairs are just dead at the sight of the light, and being found is equivalent to the end.
The duration of extramarital affairs mainly depends on three factors.
The cheating man and the mistress are emotional, the pressure on the wife's side, and the losses that can be caused.
In terms of emotions and interests, cheating men will weigh the pros and cons, and finally make a choice that is more beneficial to him.
How long the affair between the cheating man and the mistress can last depends on these three points!
The first point is the depth of feelings, whether the two people are hypocritical or genuine.
Not all cheating men only have hypocrisy towards the mistress.
It is true that some men really have feelings for Xiao San, and they still have deep feelings.
In this case, it will be very difficult for wives to separate the mistress.
A cheating man will be reluctant to give up on the mistress because of his feelings for the mistress.
will find a way to maintain an extramarital affair and not break up with the child.
Therefore, the extramarital affair that is discovered will also be maintained for a long time because of emotional factors.
After wives find out about the extramarital affair, don't blindly assume that there is no relationship between the cheating man and the mistress.
Maybe two people are really not true love, and there are some personal purposes for being together.
But it is undeniable that even if there is a purpose, it does not affect them to have feelings.
An extramarital affair with feelings is completely different from a cheating affair that doesn't go out of your mind at all.
Scarlett often reminds wives to settle their affairs according to the reality of their affairs.
It is not the same that a cheating man maintains an extramarital affair for a long time for the sake of love and refuses to break up for some excitement and novelty.
The novelty and excitement may disappear, and then the love will not, and it will grow deeper over time.
So not all extramarital affairs, wives can be dragged and resolved.
If there is a relationship between the cheating man and the mistress, the wives not only can't drag it out and not solve it, but also intervene in time and solve it quickly.
The second point is the pressure on the wife's side.
Many wives can't put any pressure on cheating men and mistresses, so they just maintain extramarital affairs for a long time.
Like a case Scarlett dealt with before, this wife said she would cry and threaten to divorce.
But other than these, she has been cheated on for more than three years and has not done anything else.
The wife may feel that she is separating the mistress, and she has even said divorce.
But for cheating men, the wives are just crying, just threatening, and there is no action at all, and the real threat is to the cheating man, then the cheating man has no pressure.
It's the same for the junior, in fact, Scarlett suggested that the wives tear the mistress.
You can't let Xiao San hide quietly behind the cheating man, without any pressure at all.
On the contrary, the wife wants to make Xiao San feel that she has always been on the verge of danger.
The wives may go berserk at any time and directly make her a junior and make it public.
The junior will have pressure, and if she can't bear the pressure, she will either force the cheating man to divorce and marry her, or choose to divorce.
Therefore, if the cheating man and the mistress are under pressure, they will not cheat in a chic manner, and the extramarital affair is not always good.
Under pressure, the two will have conflicts, and they will slowly not be able to get over and end the affair.
The third point is the loss faced, what is the serious loss of continuing the affair.
Previously, an original partner and Scarlett said that her husband and mistress were both civil servants, and she collected very conclusive evidence and threatened the cheating man and the mistress.
But the two men were indifferent, and she asked Scarlett if they weren't afraid?
The work in the system, if it is really derailed, there must be a loss, and it is impossible for the cheating man and the junior not to be afraid at all, but the wives have not really taken action.
The cheating man felt that his wife was just a threat, and the mistress saw the attitude of the cheating man, so she was not afraid.
So wives, you have to let the cheating man and the mistress really feel the loss.
Even if you don't report it directly, do something to make them feel like you're really going to do it.
Threats and direct actions are not the same for cheating men and mistresses.
The former is that there is no loss, and the latter is that there will really be a loss.
If you don't have a loss, you won't be afraid, and if you encounter a loss, you will want to end the affair.
The battlefield of extramarital affairs is so cruel, if you can fight the junior, you will have both people and money and keep your marriage.
If you can't fight, or don't want to fight, then divide the man and the marriage into half of the mistress, or the mistress will leave you with nothing.
It's all up to you to fight or not!
Everything is easier and simpler, the more you think about it, the more difficult it becomes, and the more you drag it out, the more you want to give up.
Wives find out about extramarital affairs, first determine your heart, choose your goals, and then work hard to solve all the problems that prevent you from achieving your goals, and you will naturally be able to achieve what you want.
If you have any emotional confusion or marital problems, you can pay attention to Scarlett and chat about the specific situation in private messages.
I'm Yin Sijia, your exclusive emotional mentor, sharing emotional cases and helping you answer your questions.