In emotional relationships, we often encounter some problems, such as the dilution of feelings, frequent quarrels, lack of understanding, and so on. These issues, if not handled properly, can lead to the breakdown of the relationship. So, how to use the knowledge of psychology to keep feelings fresh and long-lasting?
We need to understand that everyone's psyche is complex and unique, and our behaviour and emotions are influenced by our psyche. Therefore, understanding the psychological changes in yourself and others is key to maintaining and developing intimate relationships.
The "cognitive dissonance theory" in psychology tells us that when people's behaviors and beliefs are inconsistent, an uncomfortable state of mind is created, and this uncomfortable feeling prompts people to change their behavior or beliefs to reduce inconsistencies. In emotional relationships, conflicts and conflicts can arise if our actions are inconsistent with our beliefs about the relationship. Therefore, we need to constantly review our actions and beliefs to ensure that they are consistent.
The "attachment theory" in psychology also provides us with some useful guidance. Attachment theory holds that our attachment style is shaped by our early relationships with our parents, and that this style influences our intimate relationships as adults. Understanding our attachment style can help us better understand and process our own behaviors and reactions in relationships.
For example, if your attachment style is "avoidant," you may show independence and self-sufficiency in the relationship, but may avoid excessive intimacy and dependence. Understanding this can help you find balance in your relationship without being overly dependent on the other person or being overly distant.
The "communication theory" in psychology also emphasizes the importance of communication. Effective communication not only solves problems but also enhances mutual understanding and closeness. We should learn how to express our feelings and needs, while also listening to the feelings and needs of the other person.
The "self-determination theory" in psychology reminds us that everyone has three basic psychological needs: autonomy, ability, and relevance. In a relationship, we should respect each other's autonomy and support each other's ability development, while also meeting each other's relevance needs.
By understanding the knowledge and methods of psychology, we can better understand the psychological changes in ourselves and others, so as to better maintain and develop intimate relationships. Remember, everyone is unique, and every relationship is unique, and we need to use psychological knowledge and methods to understand and deal with each unique relationship.