Couple experience sharing of remarried elderly
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Thank you for your support! Remarriage has become a common phenomenon in the lives of older people. As the proportion of the elderly population increases, the number of remarriages continues to rise, indicating that many older people are starting to re-examine their lives, find love, and try to embrace new happiness and opportunities.
In his eight-stage theory, Erikson states that there are many major challenges that people face in their growth and development.
In the middle age of 40-65 years, people begin to face multiple challenges: life care, career crises, and personal fulfillment. At this stage, they begin to reflect on their past and future, and are under pressure from many aspects, including physical, professional and family pressures.
The emergence of a midlife crisis has pushed them to think deeply about success, experience and value, and also promoted their ability to pursue balance and active life in the second half of their lives.
In the older age of 65, the main challenges they face include: charitable giving, accepting the end of life, and looking back on life. At this stage, they begin to think about how to share their experience and wisdom with the next generation, accept the inevitability of life, and at the same time look back on the past and be grateful for the little things in life.
In old age, people face challenges that range from physical health to the maintenance of intimate relationships, to reflection on the quality of life and ultimate purpose. The task at this time is to face the possible end point bravely, to actively examine the whole picture of life, and to give meaning to life.
These two stages are periods of anxiety about the future and self-exploration. During this period, many people may choose to remarry after looking back on their lives. So, when the elderly remarry, can they still enjoy a harmonious married life?
While discussing this issue, we consulted with a number of older people who have experienced remarriage, listened to their sharing and conducted**. On the topic of the possibility of returning to normal marital life after remarriage, some older people are quite open and honest.
For example, 62-year-old Uncle Li said that he and his new wife, 60, still maintain a healthy and enthusiastic "married life". He stressed that while the relationship itself is not the only measure of happiness and success, a good sexual couple life relationship is also essential to maintaining a stable couple relationship.
Therefore, he believes that even as he gets older, he does not give up enjoying the pleasure and beauty of love.
Some older people believe that the meaning of conjugal life wanes as they age, which is consistent with Erickson's eight-stage theory. At this stage, they are more concerned with the end of their lives, looking back on the past and accepting their old age.
At this point, they are not able to pursue thrills and passions as much as they did when they were younger. At the same time, there are many factors that need to be considered for whether the couple's life is harmonious after remarriage, such as physical health, early educational background, and current status.
As people age, people in middle and old age may face physical deterioration as well as physical and mental illness. If you remarry at this stage, you may face various challenges and obstacles that affect your life as a couple.
However, for the elderly, they have to face more than just marital life in this marriage, but also need to consider more realistic factors.
When the elderly remarry, the practical issues that cannot be ignored are health and finances. As we age, chronic diseases such as high blood pressure and diabetes can become difficult to ignore, requiring a lot of time and money to maintain.
Therefore, when planning to remarry, older people need to seriously consider their partner's health to ensure that this loving married life does not add to each other's physical and mental burdens.
After retirement, many seniors may have a more difficult financial situation due to reduced income**. Especially if they want to get married again, then they need a lot of financial support.
At the same time, if both parties have had children beforehand, then getting married can come with some financial headaches. Therefore, before deciding to marry again, it is important for seniors to think deeply about their finances and discuss with their potential partner how to resolve these financial issues.
In addition, family factors are also a practical issue that older people need to consider when considering marriage.
If both partners have children, re-establishing the marriage may involve emotional and interest issues for the children. Older people should communicate with their children, listen to their advice, and assist them in dealing with any emotional distress and difficulties that may arise.
At the same time, due to the differences in the family backgrounds of the two parties, it is also necessary to pay attention to the degree of tacit understanding between each other and how to deal with the relationship between the two families. In order to ensure a harmonious marriage, it is important for older people to fully understand and pay attention to all relevant factors.
When looking for a lifelong partner, thoughtfulness is crucial. Only through rational analysis, understanding the problems that may be encountered in reality, and making wise decisions based on one's own situation, can one reap happiness and satisfaction in an elderly marriage.
Author: Tommida; Editor: Wan An; Reference: Jean Piaget Biographie (January 29, 2020).